I can admit it now.

I don't know if admitting it is going to help, but many say it is the first step.

I am addicted to RfM.

I lurk at work. I take a peek at home when my DW is out on an errand.

I neglect my work duties because I'm reading or responding.

I check in multiple times a day.

I am obsessed.

I don't know if I am officially "recovering" because my wife is still gung-ho, and, because of my position (attending, holding a calling, teeth-grittingly letting her pay tithing on gross, and trying to keep the peace), but I am finding some consolation in knowing that I am not alone. In learning something new almost every day about the church and its history. In hearing about what other people's struggles are like (and, in many cases, hoping that my situation will resolve itself in a relatively unlikely positive way).

I blame no one but myself, but I need help.

Is there a Recovery from Recovery from Mormonism board?

I admit I'm also an addict. I did give it up for the month of February, but I still didn't get anything else done.

So now instead I'm trying to beat a serious addiction to caffeine.

Haha, I also gave it up for a month, but the moment I took a peek my addiction came back and absolutely raging... I think this is because I have been unable to face the consequences of my unbelief in real life. The internet is giving me a false sense of accomplishment- a feeling like I'm winning the battle. I think if I could just break out of the Morg's control in real life, then I'd be far less addicted (and far more effective at work)!

Me too! I lurk here all the time. I constantly think of excuses not to come here, but I come here anyway. Every day at least 4 times a day.

I'm reading (and posting) while I sit on the toilet. I've been done for at least 10 minutes but haven't finished browsing RFM yet. I need to wipe and get on with my day.

I, too am addicted to RfM. Everybody together now:

Gawd, grant me the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. The courage to change the things we can. And the wisdom to know the difference.

Rowell, I cannot change your toileting/posting habits, but I can "detach with love."

;o)

LOL!

(in unison: Hi Dallin)

So when you've completed your 12th step, you'll need a new forum called RfRfM

I too am an addict. LOL

But then you will need a recovery from RfRfM program, called RfRfRfM

I am responsible
When anyone anywhere reaches out for help from Mormonism
I want the hand of RFM to be there
For that,
I am responsible

(tiny rewrite from AA)



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I've noticed that my reading of blogs and forums increases when I'm not trying out new ways to challenge myself. Maybe we are attracted to getting enjoyment from being helpful and receiving advice from the good people we get to know here.

When I was a new ex-mo RFM helped get me up to speed on history and new ways to look at Mormonism. It was invaluable, so I don't regret the hours I put in. I still enjoy getting these things from RFM, but I think I'm going to switch over to a weekly check-in to read and respond to posts that catch my eye. I don't need RFM anymore, but I still get a kick out of it.

The "Follow thread" feature is a real time-saver, so you can be alerted when someone has responded to you, so you don't have to keep checking back.

Maybe, When you are tempted to view some RFM just rock out to your favorite song if only in your head or think some sexual thoughts. That should nip your addictive RFM compulsions right in the bud.



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I am addicted to.

I go away and always end up coming back.

The people here are addicting.

You're right, fidget, it's the people. Browse for a while and you find distinctive personalities here and there. Friends to enjoy and others to fiddle with. It's here when you have an hour or two to spend with it.

Yes, there IS a 12-step recovery program for RfMers:

1. Porn
2. Delete
3. Porn
4. Delete
5. Porn
6. Delete
7. Porn
8. Delete
9. Porn
10. Delete
11. Porn
12. Release

Voila! You're cured!

If I'm lying a troll named Lockjaw will pound a rusty nail through my tongue. What's that? No! <bang, bang> Aggggghhhhh!

I think it's a stage.

I was addicted to the New Order Mormon board when I first began my faith crisis. Shortly after that I moved to facebook groups for support. Now I'm off facebook and check RfM every now and then. But I don't feel the pull toward Mormonism that I felt when I was first out.

It gets better.

Man, I hope so.

Ironically I became addicted to RFM when i mistakedly used it as a tool to stop my addiction to Jello - I thought it was a forum for Mormons to recover from addiction.

this is REAL

it's okay for me to be/say anything here...

this is a safe place

the world is crummy


I, too, am addicted to RfM...

Just ask my wife