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paintinginthewin
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Date: March 16, 2013 11:06PM
in a viewing & the whole gig, that's so inauthentic but it WAS authentic say, 23 years ago. But, this is later, and now, its inauthentic.
or did you mean, would it be authentic for the truely mormon family mourning, to have the temple gear on their deceased (no matter what they believed)? I don't know them. some, might even be conflicted, jealous, or need counseling because it looked like their exmo family/ sibling had heck a lot more good times than the commandments allowed, and now, they get to have it all- plus this, so need counseling. (mormons do not believe in grace like protestants its all merit, merit all the way or karma in other words/ vocabulary, very black and white no gray.) So living one way and being buried another might NOT support all the survivors, who might also struggle with inauthenticity or EVEN FEAR- that its not right, or that they are doing something wrong, slipping temple clothes onto someone's dead body who was exed or removed themselves from the records of the church.
However- a mormon officiator, and a mormon grave dedication, or speaker, might comfort mormon family members. Just recall how very fearful they are of breaking any commandments, or allowing you to, or doing something wrong or that breaks rules or church expectations- sort of like serving beer on the lawn at a wedding might frighten them because its bad.
off topic- I saw a beautiful cookie jar or urn at a rock and mineral show and told my husband I'd like it to be for my ashes someday- remember to go and get me one if I die. The vendor said you could use it for cookies in the meantime and ashes later. /i got the idea of ashes at my mother in law's funeral but I don't want a little pine box of ashes except she worked for the forest service setting up timber sales so it was appropriate. I love rocks so I want a rock box or rock urn for me to bury my ashes in it or something. I don't think anyone will be upset, one of my kids is a geologist how could they care? some strand in your life that is authentic- your favorite color to be dressed in, or favorite shirt, and your kid's or sibings' a common theme- to have spoken at a memorial or service, favorite music or iconic beat (for my father recently it was "On the road again" and "King of the road" he was a truck driver, millions of miles multiple commercial licenses he built the state hauled building supplies as California built up)
you can make it - athentic - and yet- supportive- to your survivors- I know its possible.
how about pink lace, or leather boots, or hiking gear, disco purse or a peacock feather? a cowboy hat, gemstone tie- something real
this can be real- its like a real poem
a love ode