How did you overcome the stunted sexual development and interminable repression of your Mormon youth and young adulthood?

Therapy therapy therapy.

Edited to add: Marving Gaye wouldn't hurt.



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To simplify a little too much, maybe, I think we get over anxieties, repression and ineptitude through experience. Scary things become less scary as we do them. We gain knowledge, skill and wisdom.

Therapy is good, but theory needs to be put into practice. Too bad sexual surrogates are illegal in most places. They can be a fine combination of shrink and practice partner.

Thank my stars Hugh Hefner came along at just the right time.

I went into therapy basically to help myself with this very thing and it has really helped me become open to experiences that seemed frightening to me and more compassionate with myself as I work through my adolescence as a man in my late 40s.

I will say that I did get to a moment in therapy where my counselor told me that we'd pretty much talked everything to death and that I was at a decision point--I could choose the safe-feeling celibacy I'd grown used to or I could chose to be a sexually active adult and embrace the challenges that it would represent for me. I didn't have a surrogate handy to get me past that choice but that would have been a good alternative to what I ended up doing in order to kickstart my new life. Still, no regrets. It's an ongoing process but I know I'm on the right path.



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Oh boy!!!! I grew up in a repressed predominately Morgbot area (southeast Idaho), spending most of my youth and young adulthood wanting to be strait but still questioning my sexuality, in a morgbot household with a pedophile father who, after being outed as such by yours truly, was offered words of kindness and support from such repressed Mormon community and given a slap on the wrist by the judge with 1 week of jail time, a suspended sentence and restitution. (morgbot judge too)

Sooooooooooo, therapy therapy therapy!!!! Soul searching, had to develop a process of how to think for myself with the help of a close nit support network that is either non-mo or never-mo. Obviously out of the closet now at work and in life. No longer live in that area and quite honestly would never go back were it not for the fact that my mom and sister still live there. (by the way, my parents are still married)

This is so much less than the nutshell version, but yes, definitely a lot of difficult healing.