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dogzilla
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Date: April 04, 2013 01:25PM
Semi-related note about judging people by appearances.
I grew up hanging around racetracks. My dad raced motorcycles (quit when he became a mormon because you can't race on Sunday). Every weekend, he packed us up and trotted us all off to the track, raced all weekend and back home again. During the week and non-race season, he'd take us around to all the bike shops. He'd socialize with his racing buddies, they'd trade tips and tricks and set ups, maybe purchase a part or some gear here and there. In short, I grew up around really rough bikers.
I have not even the slightest hint of fear about Hell's Angels types. I tend to be super friendly with them, because in my experience, bikers are some of the kindest, warmest, open-hearted people you could ever hope to meet. Far kinder and warmer and more helpful than mormons in general.
Many years ago, I was working at a BMW factory in South Carolina that had just been built. It was so new, they were still building parts of the building when I worked there. One day, I went out to smoke and spotted this 6' 4" dude with steel-toed biker boots, a huge biker beard, and a biker leather jacket on. He was standing by himself, despite a couple dozen other people being out there. Nobody spoke to him. He looked too scary.
So I marched right up to him, stuck out my hand and introduced myself. Turns out, the guy was an enormous teddy bear. Sweet and kind as the day is long -- he just liked motorcycles. Well, I do too. I also learned that he was also from Ohio, and not far from where I was from. He'd even raced motorcycles and had raced at some of the same tracks I'd hung around as a kid. "Do they still have those bleachers built into the stone quarry?" "Yep." "Oh, cool!" We eventually got to be good friends and if I needed help or something, I ran straight to him. And he was there for me, every. single. time.
The guy would never achieve anything close to mormon standards of dress and appearance. But he far surpassed most mormon standards of behavior. That was a lesson that has served me well ever since. Do not assume anything based on someone's appearance. You just never know what's lurking behind the protective outer coating.