Posted by:
dogzilla
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Date: April 05, 2013 11:20AM
I avoid all family holidays including Thanksgiving, Christmas and whatever else.
I live 1000 miles away. In order to participate in Thanksgiving, I would have to:
• Take at least a week of vacation days to allow for travel time.
• Spend anywhere from $400-600 for a flight, plus $20 a day for parking my car at the airport, plus $35 a day for boarding my two pets at the kennel. Because hitching rides with family members can be a PITA, I also rent a car. There's another $250-300. The average 4-day weekend trip home will cost me somewhere around $1,000.
• When I get there, pretty much every family member ignores me. I am the only one who is college educated, single and has no children. They don't understand me, cannot relate to me, are not interested in learning anything about me, and seem to think I'm some sort of stuck up asshole.
• Also, my stepmonster and my mom are terrible cooks, yet neither one will allow anyone to help them in the kitchen. The food is usually horrible regardless of which family I choose to hang with.
So after burning a week's worth of vacation, spending about $1000, eating crap food, and being treated like complete crap by 95% of my family members, I started asking myself: Why am I doing this? Is this for THEM? Because if it is, I'm wasting my time. Nobody seems especially pleased nor disappointed if I'm there or not. No one wants to sit down and talk to me and find out what's up with my life. I never hear from any of them the rest of the year: no birthday cards, no Christmas cards, no emails, no FB friends, no texting, no calls. So it's clear to me that my presence at family events is not important to anyone. Why should I bother? It's not worth all the sacrifices I have to make in order to travel up there just to be ignored and fed poorly. I quit going years ago and just enjoy myself at home alone with the critters. So generally, I cook something ethnic, although this is Florida and cheap seafood is plentiful, so sometimes I do a seafood feast. I've also been known to just chuck a cardboard frozen pizza in the oven, order out, or go out to a restaurant (which I did for both holidays this year).