I am kind of in shock. My ex husband is getting remarried in the temple. When we got married, he wasn't really interested in getting married in the temple, but I was. We both went to the temple for the first time when we were married. He wasn't active when we were dating, and we never went back to the temple after we got married, and we became inactive.

After we divorced, he slept around a lot and dated a lot, and didn't go to church. I always thought he didn't really believe in the church, since he never went and had major problems with their polygamist past. And now all the sudden he's getting married in the temple. We both considered briefly getting back together, and when we did, he said he didn't want to get married again to a mormon girl in the temple. And now he is.

It just sound really weird to me. I almost think he's just completely desperate to be married. We were married for eight years, so I know him pretty well and this is taking me by surprise.

Has anyone ever experienced this before? He never took his name off the records of the church, but I did. Maybe he's still believed it all along. But I really honestly doubt it...

If he slept around how can he get a recommend? or did he do a 180 and became a super TBM?

The girl wants a cult-belonging temple guy.

He wants her.

Hormonal reactivation.

cfutahn, your story sounds very similar to mine.

Ex-DH and I were sealed in the temple (I'd converted three years earlier and he'd just gotten baptized before our civil wedding). While we were married, he was only sporadically interested in church, but he did tons of porn all the time.

After we divorced, he kept doing porn (kids saw it on his computer all the time), he dated and slept around profligately -- while holding down three callings in his singles ward and attending the temple. I was thinking, "WTF?"

Then he went inactive for a while but still pretended.

Finally, he met a very rich woman online and married her a few weeks later. Overnight, he morphed into a temple-going, Priesthood-holding, conservative Republican -- and now he and his new wife are getting sealed in the temple. He makes snarky remarks to the kids behind my back about how "she doesn't believe what we do." Again, WTF?

Maybe your ex-DH is just marrying this woman in the temple to keep her happy so he can get what he wants out of the relationship. You can't really know, but don't assume it's because he's madly in love and wants to spend eternity with her. From what you've described, he just wants to be married and doesn't care how it happens.

The snarky remarks were about ME not believing what he and new wifey (and presumably the kids who are LDS) believe.

The only way he can get in her pants.
Nuff said!!

This reminds me of when I was at a singles ward. There was this guy who was uberTBM, he was loved by everyone in the ward, almost worshiped. Well I came into hard times and needed a place to live for a few days. One night, while I was sleeping on the couch, I was woke up by two young girls pounding on the front door. They were trying to find their roommate and almost pushed their way into the house, demanding her. I told them she was not here. They left. So I go to my roommate’s bedroom door and knocked on it. He was all mad at me for disturbing him. I told him two girls were looking for a girl. He got more pissed at me. I went back to bed. A few moments later he comes out with a girl and seeing i am still up says he needs to take her to the hospital because she is having headaches. Like I didn't know what they were doing. The next Sunday he is at church all god like, everyone ooing and awing. It was testamonky day so he got up and told his look at me I am god story. Being somewhat TBM myself I was thinking WTF.

Wow. The very last thing that I would want would be another temple wedding. I'd go for a wedding in the woods when the dogwood is blooming, with cake and coffee afterward.

Like your husband, I did that. It was because second DW was TBM and wanted it.

CFutahn, it's always interesting to see what our exes do after we divorce them and the choices they make. Just keep on being you and living your life. Your kids will see beyond the smoke and mirrors.

My exhusband was always very wishy washy about the morg, attendance and membership. There were times when he'd decide out of the blue that we just HAD to start attending again and get back on the straight and narrow and then, after a few months or so, would decide he was tired of it all and wanted to do something totally, completely different (like study Wicca) just out of the blue.

He was sealed to his second wife in the temple a year after she was baptized then went inactive. He's married to his third wife now, who he baptized on his mission way back in the 70's and I hear they're wanting to go to the temple and be sealed as well.

I think it's more of an act to keep up appearances for the sake of his family than anything. I also believe that he's afraid to live his own life and be his own person, in part because he's afraid the church is true but won't do the work to figure it out for himself. Plus, he's very good at lying and does not know what feeling guilty is, so he can lie himself into a temple recommend quite easily.