Posted by:
wildwest
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Date: April 22, 2013 02:36AM
Back again, looking for advice. I have been in the process of bargaining with TBM wife how we will handle our young children through my separation from the TSCC.
She indicated that she still wants to take them to church, I responded that that would be fine as long as every other family home evening was my topic (RfM style discussion), and that my religious beliefs would be just as respected as hers. She loosely agreed but I'm not sure she understands what she agreed to.
I love my wife and kids but I can see this whole thing blowing up when/if my wife's TBM bulldozer psyche gets torpedoed by my openness with the children.
In the end, I want my children to feel loved and safe at home. I'm troubled by the idea they will have both their parents confusing the hell out of them with competing world views that don't agree.
Also, I'm worried TBM wife will bad talk my views and make me look like an awful person (which I'm not) behind my back. I know about this one personally, my mother did it when I was a child while my father was leaving the TSCC.
Can anybody who has ever been in this situation share recommendations for balance in the home? It is looking like it may be impossible to achieve.
Thanks.