Posted by:
soontobeexmormon
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Date: April 23, 2013 11:39AM
Hello. I just discovered this board last night and thought I would post my story for some feedback. Hopefully I don't bore anyone to sleep. My story starts about a year ago. I wasn't religious at all, but at that time I was in a pretty dark place. I was drinking alot and was very depressed. Anyway, I met a woman that I definitely had feelings for. She was of course, a mormon. We started to see each other and she introduced me to the religion, which I previously knew very little about. I read the first part of the b.o.m. and met with the missionaries and definitely had a shift of mind and attitude, and truly a change of heart. I started to believe that there might be a god, and that god might be reachable through the LDS church. I quit drinking (I am still sober, never relapsed) and my life started to turn around. I felt stronger, more confident, and more at peace. I ended up getting married to this woman about 3 months later. I then went on to gain priesthood in the church, take on a calling and become from all appearances a strong LDS church member. After several months in the church I began to question some of the more common issues...Joseph Smith's first vision, the mention of synagogues and horses in the BOM...1500 years early ? The notion that our native american ancestors were Jewish etc. All things that are obviously not true and have pretty much been proven by credible sources as untrue. That led me to begin to wonder what else was true and wasn't true. I came to the conclusion that the liklihood of the BOM being a true account of ancient people to be fairly slim, but I was able to reconcile that with the fact that Jesus did teach in parables, and I thought that maybe this book was just another parable. I also remembered how much my life had / has improved as a member of the church whether the book is true or not...and I still think there's something to be said for that. anything that can improve your life is a good thing, I don't care what it is. My wife is a life long member and her "testimony" is iron clad and she can't be swayed. I wouldn't even try...I wouldn't want to break down her belief system. As time has gone on though I'm having that much more of a problem following this book and following this church. The straw that broke the camel's back so to speak was about 2 months ago. I had been considering quitting my job (which wasn't a very good job anyway) in order to do the same job for myself and work from home. In doing this, I gave up a guaranteed paycheck, no matter how shitty the job was, for the unknown and the possibility of failure. Of course as my wife and I talked about this her suggestion was always to pray about it and follow that guidance. I did, and I felt like I got a strong response to quit and start working for myself. 2 months later, the project has been an utter failure, and I'm scrambling to find a new job. I pray now, and have been for the last month for comfort, strength, help, anything...and I don't hear any answers and I feel like I'm just sitting in a room talking to myself. Regardless of my belief in the BOM I have believed that there is a god and someone was listening to me. Now I don't see it anymore. I'm now not only struggling with my belief in the church, but in christianity as a whole. I don't know what to do. I can't stay married to my wife without being a member of the church. I don't think she loves me that much. I now think that she loves me as a priesthood holder, and not really me, if that makes sense. I have a 12 y/o daughter from another marriage that lives with her mom and has become attached to this step family. Thankfully I and my wife have already decided that we won't be having children so that's good. I'm sure someone else has been in a position like this. If so, what did you do? I have to leave this church now that I for sure don't believe the church, and am really struggling to believe in god at all...don't I?