Posted by:
kabbima
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Date: April 24, 2013 11:57AM
We live in Utah County, a place that can seem like the central hub for the Mormon gossip train at times. My husband works with 2 people who live a few blocks from us and are both TBM, thankfully in a separate ward (in the same ward together though and are good friends.) Lets call them D and J. About a week ago D was complaining to my husband that he didn't have enough time to get to his church meetings during the week. My husband responded by saying, "Just stop going." The guy replied with, "It's not like I can just quit and walk away from the church." To which my husband replied, "It's not that hard I did." This was followed by a brief conversation that we resigned from the church.
D was the only person outside of my parents that we told and I'm actually surprised my husband mentioned it. The bishop told a few people when he received our resignation from membership services, which turned into several people approaching us about it. Something we had tried to avoid. Anyways I'm rambling. So D told J at the first opportunity he had. J's 8 year old daughter is good friends with our 8 year old daughter. (We don't care for J and his wife, but we haven't let that affect our kids relationship. J has also been pushy over the years about us being involved in the church, the past year he has finally gotten the idea we aren't going.) So after being in California for a few days my husband returned to work to have J questioning why we resigned. I received similar questions from his wife. We both stated that we don't believe the church is true and that was that. Or so I thought.
Yesterday my husband was approached by J saying that his daughter really wanted Abbie (our daughter) to go to church and activities with his daughter. My husband didn't really respond besides saying he would talk to me about it. When we questioned our daughter about it she said that J's daughter had asked her to go to church and activities with her because her mom and dad said she should.
The point of my ramble. This is not the first person who has gone after our children after we left the church. It makes me so mad that they would put their daughter up to this knowing full well our opinions on the church. Neither of our kids can understand the extent of our feelings, though we have talked to our daughter about us not believing its true. I once had an argument with my biological mothers husband about the truth behind the church. In that argument he stated that they have to get the kids while they are young otherwise it's to hard to reach them when they get older. At the time I didn't think much of it. Now it appears to be something they teach everyone. Anyways I just needed to vent to people who can understand my frustration. Trying to talk to some TBM about the flaws you see in the church is like trying to empty the ocean one drop at a time.