Date: October 05, 2010 01:41AM
I am so sorry this pain is yours.
Just keep being his dad and loving him and being available for him. He just needs some time but perhaps in the not too distant future you can sit with him and talk about the things Packer said and help him gain a perception/understanding of what Packer doesn't know. Packer doesn't know that being heterosexual is no more a choice than being homosexual is a choice.
Maybe have your son connect with a COLAGE chapter [Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere] if there is one in your area. They also have online communities.
Find a COLAGE Chapter near you: http://www.colage.org/chapters/find.htm