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Date: May 23, 2013 03:05PM
I need some advice.
I'm finding since moving to UTah, especially, that people do not like to take responsibility for their actions or those of their children. It's so crazy and annoying.
I grew up in California and was raised to be overly accountable for anything and everything I did. At times it was hard and uncomfortable but I think I'm a better person for it.
First I worked in the school system on an elementary level when I first moved here. More often then not, I noticed that the Kids were always being rescued by their parents, tons of excuses made and the kids would be defended by their parents even before they had any of the facts. It would just blow my mind.
BUt, My particular problem is this, my daughter was stopped at a stop light and was hit from the back by a 30+ something guy who was towing a trailer and just couldn't stop. When the cop came this guy was sighted because he didn't have insurance even though he kept claiming he did. We had all of his info and tried to get in touch with him. At first he was very willing to take care of the car and wanted us to go to a certain place to get it fixed. HE got an estimate without the car there so we took the car to where we normally go to see if it was comparable. When we told him we wanted to take it to this other place is when we had a hard time getting in touch with him.Our daughter was also going to need a rental because she is 20 and has a job. She paid for most of this car herself and was hit another time, this women wanted to give her a cash payout less the the repairs and she still had it fixed. She is not interested in the money but only having her car restored to it's original shape.
Anyway, since we weren't hearing form this guy my husband went to his house YES, he was surprised and seemed embarrassed. He explained that he wanted to go to this certain shop because the owner would give him a deal. My husband said no problem because we weren't trying to be jerks. We agreed and also told him not to worry about the rental car, we would work out our car situation.
So, my daughter tried to call and make an appointment. This shop was like 2 months out. Where our guy could have taken it that week. We texted the guy and told him that was too long and for him to call and set something up sooner. That is where the trail ends. It's been a week and he has not gotten back to us.
My husband wants to give him more time, he may not have the money. He didn't say that but after he pays the $1,000 (for lack of insurance) fine he may not have any money.BUT, I am worried because this happened in another situation where a teenager hit me and then after we gave her a couple of months to tell her father she told him another story and he said "who should I believe you or my daughter?" And I said, "it depends on what kind of daughter you are trying to raise." and he laughed!(we handled it poorly but that was our first experience in trying to get money from someone in Utah)
So, how can we make him pay for the damages? He has given us no reason recently to make us think he is going to take care of this and the longer it goes on the less likely he will pay.
Any experience with this or advice.
I'm not sure if I'm just being overly justice oriented which I can be or if he deserves to be hunted down!!! It really makes me mad that sometimes people just don't do the right thing!!