Posted by:
vulturetamer
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Date: July 08, 2013 06:03PM
I am an emotional wreck the past few days.
My ex was approved to be sealed (remember, I wrote the letter a month or more ago, telling my side of things) in a little less than three weeks.
I was speaking to my brother about a different upcoming family event, and he mentioned in passing that Ex had sent an email to all of my siblings and my father, requesting their attendance at his sealing to new bride.
And some of them are making the 600+ mile trek to do so.
I am all too familiar with this feeling. As they did the SAME THING when he married her over three years ago. They went to his wedding. And then wanted to know if they could come over for a bbq at my house afterwards. I was so desperate for their love and approval, I said yes initially, and ended up canceling the day of the wedding/bbq because I just could not get over that the bbq felt like a token, to make THEM feel better for just attending my ex's wedding.
So, here we are, and I'm all worked up again, in utter disbelief that they can do this again. It has been a rocky road since my divorce, and my own family members have shunned me to the nth degree. (Let me say that not all of them have, there seems to be a great divide, almost down the blood vs step siblings line, but not completely).
I have been straight up with my father, standing up to him a few years ago, when he told me he would be welcoming my ex and his wife, my kids, and hers, into his home for a vacation. I was livid, and could not understand how/why he would do it. I think he secretly hates me? Since then, I refuse to take my family there to his home, and it has been at least three years since we have.
I have worked on these relationships, have been open to repairing them, and have gone out of my way to be honest with how I feel that their behavior has damaged things, but willing to move forward. I mean, seriously, I have put forth great effort.
And nothing has been reciprocated except venom from my sisters on FB, high fiving my ex's wife when she posts passive/aggressive crap on her FB wall, referring most recently to how my "lies" were preventing her from getting something she so desperately wanted (ie: temple sealing). We have mutual friends......IRL & on FB, and she has managed to suck some of them in as well.
I can't take this bull shi* anymore. I have called a therapist to help me sort this stuff out. It sure is hard to muddle through what is/isn't normal behavior from my family.
How long can my family continue to punish a 40 year old woman? Come on. Enough is enough.
This is pain. :(