Posted by:
Elder Berry
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Date: July 08, 2013 08:56PM
I talked with my brother for the first time in so many years yesterday. I reached out to him. I had recently become aware that his son had come out a few years back and I had heard from the same source that he was "struggling" with his son's orientation.
They were dead wrong.
My brother fully supports his son and gay marriage. I had to ask him if these feelings weren't prompted by his son. My brother was honest. They were.
Apparently, my brother's years of attempting the impossible dream of being the perfect Mormon have come crashing down around him and he is perfectly fine with it. He knows that he risks never getting another important calling in LDS Inc. and is coming to terms with it.
I was surprised by two things in talking to him and it had nothing to do with homosexuality. The first was how natural it was talking to him. Our whole lives I have felt awkward around him. This new him isn't awkward to me. I was quite surprised.
The second thing was his ability to support LDS Inc. regardless of his divergence from their path. Now to say I was surprised is not quite true. I was surprised that he could support gay marriage, admire other Christian religions, think that LDS Inc. should minister to its members instead of tell them to pray and read more, and yet tell me as honestly as he did these things that LDS Inc. was a good place for his kids.
Stockholm Syndrome must be another word for Michael Ash's "Shaken Faith Syndrome."
My brother has basically consigned himself to Mormon purgatory in their path to perfection because he actually want to perfect himself and has turned to other non-LDS Inc. sources to do so while propping LDS Inc. up as a "good organization." Begs the question for me how many other "sort-a" TBMs think along these same lines? I bet droves do. But regardless of how long my brother stays TBM (till death does he depart from it I believe) he represents for me how "out of tune" these geezers are - and they are supposed to be the most "in tune."
Maybe impossible problems are actually strengths for LDS Inc. ala polygamy, fairy tales about "translating" ancient texts and whatnot. I told my brother I hold religions to the standards they claim for themselves - judge them as if a benevolent God existed and they represent the benevolence of this creature towards what this being supposedly created. They setup this standard (religions) not me. And LDS Inc. sucks more than so many others. If my brother wants to cleave unto their ideals and ideas of "good" I told him it was fine with me. Just don't try to reconvert me. Oh, and I will tell you how I feel about Mormonism and I did.
Makes me crazy. Too bad he can't see the impossible problem of fitting Mormonism into some kind of "spiritual path" leader. Who knows, maybe his gay son will be the undoing of his TBM-ness. God knows my gay-living-straight brother was not understanding of this father of a gay son. He was the most adamant about how gay marriage is bad when these two brothers of mine spoke about his son.