Posted by:
Joy
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Date: August 05, 2013 07:50PM
I like snuckafoodberry's attitude.
This is YOUR family! A stupid, fake, polygamous cult does not belong in the middle of your marriage. (Even so, the marriage vows in the temple say that the new husband and wife are sealed "in the everlasting covenant" of the Mormon church. They marry the church, and don't even know it.)
Your adult children were taught in Primary, that their family will not be a "forever family" if one of their parents becomes "a wicked apostate", and that is a fate worse than death for you. Bla-bla. The brain-washing was done years ago.
Why can't we just yell out the Truth, and cry, and throw a tantrum, like the Mormons do to us? Tell your kids you will dis-inherit them if they stay in the cult, because they will give 10% of it to the cult, and you don't want that. A lot of our neighbors dis-inherited their children for not going on a mission, not getting married in the temple, and for being gay, etc. Why can't ex-Mormons be tough, too?
You are a good guy, and a "catch." Maybe you ought to flex your muscles and threaten to divorce your wife. Accuse her of alienating your children!
Religion has no place in a marriage, and that is the truth! If you take your wife out to dinner, or to a movie, or for a drive, or make love to her--all this has nothing to do with religion. Take your adult children fishing, or to a ball game, and if they bring up the subject of religion, tell them that what you are doing right how has nothing to do with religion. (I don't allow religion in the work place, and everyone abides by that.)
My husband got tough. He told me what snuckafoodberry said, and he stood his ground. He called TSCC a hoax and a cult, and told me that it was absolutely false, and that he would not support it in any way, or give one dime to it. He said he would not give me any money, unless I promised to not pay tithing on it. He said the children and I were free, just as he was free, and that he would not stop us from going to church, and would not give us a hard time. After this initial talk, he kept his word. He would answer questions, and that was all. He did tempt us with fun and happiness, and love. We began enjoying our Sundays more. The answers my husband gave me made sense. Especially, the nasty way the Mormons, and my husband's TBM family treated my husband, made us happy to leave. Mormonism is not about love. It is not about Christ. It is not about families. It is easy to find the flaws in their stupid scriptures and history, once you realize that.
Since Mormons rely on "feelings" for their testimonies, you can begin there, like my husband did. Point out what the Mormons are doing and saying, and let the cult shoot itself in the foot. Time is on your side. Don't panic at this stage.
Remember, Mormonism keeps its members through FEAR.
I'm sorry you are going through something so UNNECESSARY, but I know you have the courage and love to get you through this.