Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: August 06, 2013 05:30PM
This is how I have lived it and understand the reaction to someone leaving, in a nut shell:
In many cases, Mormonism functions as a highly insulated, territorial generational, patriarchal, familial, social, religious tribe with it's own unique customs, language, rituals, ceremonies, etc.
When someone leaves, they are seen and understood, in their belief system, as leaving their Eternal Family which is is absolute rejection, in all of it's ramifications.
Some take this extremely hard. It is seen, by them, as a complete rejection of their whole life's teachings and training as required by the Lord.
Naturally, leaving this kind of system requires some finesse to minimize the fall out which can be great. In the extreme,in the insulated culture, it can mean loss of jobs, career, home, family. etc.
Others find it relatively easy to leave the LDS Church. They have family that is able to recognize everyone's rights to their choices and apply unconditional love and acceptance.
Some members take longer than others to arrive at acceptance and understanding.
Once I understood how the system worked, on all of it's levels, I began to get a clear view of how to navigate my own removal from the religion. I was an adult convert, married in the temple. Fortunately, after a few ugly moments, my husband, (a true believer) and I negotiated an understanding: we would agree to disagree. Then religion became a non-issue.