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Date: August 13, 2013 12:09PM
Please excuse any poor english or bad grammar. It wasn't my favorite subject.
BIC, RM, temple worker, married in temple; wife, all family and almost all friends are TBM. Enlightened/lost faith within last month.
Most days I've felt liberated. Freed from the chains of "be ye perfect" but thinking that "[all our words works and thoughts] will condemn us, we shall not be found spotless."
I don't even know how to organize all my thoughts on the issue. Maybe I just need to vent? Maybe I need validation? To those who have posted before: THANK YOU. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I was on the verge of nervous breakdown trying to resolve all the contradictions in doctrine by using only church materials.
I made the mistake of openly asking many in my family and several friends what to do about doubting the church.
I have been given conference talks, advised to pray, read, ponder, rely on my testimony, don't look at anti-mormon sites (which is funny, the biggest blow to my faith came from the Joseph Smith Papers and seeing for myself the changes in revelations between Book of Commandments and DC). They think I am too stressed with school right now. They think it just HAS to be a medication I am taking.
Some things they have said:
-You don't want to be together forever?
-I KNOW the church is true.
-Don't read crap on the internet.
-[family member] went through the same thing and still believes.
-Read [book] by [Apostle]
-Be careful, you might lose [wife] over this
-How long do you think your wife will want to be with someone not holding the priesthood?
-I thought I had a fairytale life, but not anymore-wife. This last one hurt.
I do understand where they are coming from. A year ago I would have reacted the same to anyone else in my family.
May I also say I feel so bad for the missionaries! They truly believe in what they are doing and they go through hell. I truly believed. I gave my heart mind and might. But it sucked! The desire I had to serve God was only surpassed by the guilt I felt for not being obedient enough to "Double Baptisms!" MP always told us if we were 100% obedient we would double baptisms. But its not about numbers... BULL. I would feel guilty about getting in bed at 10:31 when we were supposed to get in at 1030.
On the subject of fanatical missionary whatnot, I am ashamed to say I actually had this discussion with my comps a few times: "We aren't supposed to ever touch kids right? well what if one is falling down stairs?" And I remember not knowing what I would do. Just thinking about my mission brings back quite the Anxiety.
I've read so much church sponsored BS it makes me sick. The same quotes, scriptures and stories are used over and over and over. It feels like "Oh you have a concern about the church? Have faith keep the commandments and I KNOW the church is true."
Reading the true history of the church was a welcome change. For a while I kept thinking "well yeah BY said this, but it was a different time, just speculating... blah blah blah". When I finally entertained the thought that MAYBE JUST MAYBE Brigham Young wasn't a true prophet, what I thought was an incredibly strong testimony was gone within hours.
Ugh. I just feel like the church stole the first 25 years of my life! As a teenager I thought I was for sure going to hell, because sex sins are right up there with murder, and if you even think about lusting after a woman you are an adulterer. Well every time I passed Victorias secret in the mall, it reaffirmed to me: yep, I'm Telestial material.
It would be so much easier if it were true. If "my concerns" were resolved. But I can no longer "Look into the sun and deny it is there". I can no longer deny reason.
Sorry for the long post, I just had to say something. To quote Mugatu from Zoolander, "I feel like I'm taking Crazy Pills!" Will my family always look at me differently? Or will they start to look at the church differently? Okay I've got to stop.
Thanks for your courage, your words and your support.