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Date: August 14, 2013 02:24AM
I am 19 and living with my dad. My parents got a divorce because my mom is psycho (largely due to her abusive Mormon upbringing) so it is clear as to why I am staying with my dad. (For more background, my dad has never been affected much by religion. He is still religious but not a religious nut).
When I was younger I was very motivated. my parents were always proud of it. When I reached the middle of my teenage years, about my sophomore year of HS, I lost all motivation and became very lazy. My parents began pestering me about getting things done as any normal parent would. Towards the end of that phase just before I turned 18 my parents had a hectic divorce. I managed through it and started getting motivated again.
The divorce seemed to really affect my dad, understandably. But, in this time between late seventeen and now (less than a month away from 20), I began getting straight A's again and am attending the community college full time and I have two part time jobs and bought my own car, do my own laundry, clean my dishes, and frequently buy my own meals, yet he still acts like I'm doing nothing!
It bothers me a lot! I feel like he tries to find anything I'm not doing to say I'm not doing enough! For example, this past week (and a few other times these past months) I have been excessively busy and my room has gotten messy so he comes up to me says in a very stressed voice "you have to clean your room" and it is generally accompanied by "I can't live this way. I feel like I'm living in a pigsty." And even when I apologize and try to explain he justifies his reason and then makes me feel guilty about it.
One stressful reoccurring situation in particular is when he needs help doing something, he practically whines to me, and goes on about how he "needs help" and how "[he] can't keep doing EVERYTHING like this!" And how it's so stressful for him. But I never have said no! I always help him, but I can guarantee that when he needs help he will act like that and send me on a guilt trip. So does it even matter that I'm doing everything I can?
I just don't know what to do.