Posted by:
Joy
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Date: August 15, 2013 05:26AM
"The Family" is the Mormon cult's greatest weapon. Your daughter-in-law's family has been brainwashed into believing that if any family member is not sealed in the Mormon temple, that they will not be with that person in the hereafter.
That's right. My husband and I were Mormons, but had never been married in the temple, and were divorced, and the Primary teachers taught our children that we would would be alone in the hereafter, not even know each other, and that we would "walk past each other as strangers." My daughter had nightmares, and my sons just got angry, and they wanted to quit the cult--but I wouldn't let them.
Mormons are taught that non-temple goers, even if they are still Mormons, are not as righteous. The types of power-struggles, judgments, and feuds go on with Mormon families within the cult--against each other. Each family manipulates, and tries to get more control over, more time spent with, more importance in the lives of their family members. Mormons are extremely competitive.
YOU ARE DEALING WITH CRAZY PEOPLE. Mormons are often Narcissistic, and it might help you to study about Narcissism, in order to deal with it. Mormonism is a Narcissistic religion.
I'm so sorry you son has brought the MOrmon plague into your life. Although all of my children resigned with me, one of my daughters married a Mormon returned missionary, and we now have the cult back in our lives again. When I'm excluded from every family get-together, I make myself feel better, by knowing that this is not personal. I am a good person, and an influence for good for my family. The cult members are the crazy ones.
Look at it this way--those little rituals are made-up, and meaningless. Joseph Smith was a con-man, a pedophile, and a criminal. He invented the temple rules, and borrowed the temple rituals from the Masons, so he could marry young girls in the temple--have his own secret marriages, along with his other polygamist friends. My ancestor was one of those polygamist friends, and I have read his diary, and his wife's diary.
When a Mormon baby is "blessed" only the men can participate, and only the men who have the Mormon priesthood. My non-Mormon sons had to stay seated, and were not invited to join the "prayer circle". They were the only men not included, and they felt very bad! Yes, they felt "unworthy." But, I reminded my sons that the Mormon priesthood had no power with God. Later, at home, we gathered as a family, and had a Christian prayer of our own, over the new baby, blessing him with Love, curiosity, kindness, generosity, and all the good qualities that Mormons leave out of their baby blessings. Mormons pray for their babies to:
1--get baptized in the Mormon church when they are 8.
2--Go on a mission for the Mormon church
3--Get married in the temple
4--Have more babies and raise them to be Mormons.
Though Mormons spend millions of dollars advertising and recruiting new members, he Mormon church's #1 source of new members is: new births!
You are in way over your head, but you can live around all this, by ADDING more to your son's and daughter-in-law's life than the MOrmon church does. The MOrmon church actually TAKES away money and time, self-esteem, freedom, happiness. The Mormon church does not give the one great thing that Christian churches offer: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
I have made a personal vow to love my children, in-laws, and grandchildren unconditionally. If you do that, you will rise above the pettiness, fears, and power-struggles. My daughter's MOrmon in-laws love to gossip, and put others down, in order to make themselves feel superior. Think about this. You write that your house is nicer than theirs. They are probably very jealous of this. You did give them money at first, and to Mormons, money is power. You have no idea how afraid of you they are!
I sit back and let the Mormon in-laws shoot themselves in the foot. When they say something nasty (and false) about me, I wince, and say, "That was a mean thing to say." or "That is a lie" when I can prove it is a lie. I call them on their manipulations and phoniness. I treat them like the crazies they are. When they accused me of trying to get them to name their new baby after me (I don't even like my name) I rolled my eyes and said, "Where do they come up with this garbage?"
You need to feel secure in your value to your son and his children, and possibly to your daughter-in-law, who has been under her father's thumb her whole life. Open new doors for them. Get them excited about life. Mormonism is notorious for being depressing! Utah is the most depressed state in the Nation, using the most anti-depressants, and having one of the highest suicide rates. I was depressed the whole time I was a Mormon, and when I left the cult, my depression disappeared. Look at what they teach.
Don't ever ask the Bishop's advice! He is not a trained clergyman! Lay clergy is not qualified to give marriage counseling, sex advice, political mandates, or any of the other things bishops are free to do. You and your husband, as normal parents, are far more qualified. Do not let the Bishop run things. Above all, do not ask his permission to see your children/grandchildren! He doesn't own them, and his cult doesn't own them. This is unrighteous dominion.
Fight back, in a loving, confident, calm way. Take a class in assertiveness training. The book, "When I say 'No", I Feel Guilty" is a manual in how to deal with trained Mormon missionaries and leaders. They are trained to manipulate others, and you will need some counter-training.
Because I (try to) never say anything bad about anyone, because I love unconditionally, because I'm liberal with praise, very supportive, non-interfering, have experience parenting, teaching, working with children, etc., my grandchildren prefer me to the in-laws, and that is huge. Oh, and don't say anything bad about their religion. (I never call it a cult around my family) but say something good about Christ. Such as, "Christ would never allow children to burn in the Second Coming. He loves children!" (This is another threat in Primary, to beat children into submission. I used to have nightmares about burning in a fire, because I was late, or accidentally broke something, etc, as children do.)
The Mormon in-laws are overly busy with stupid church meetings and projects. The MOrmon church separates children from the parents for 2/3 of the time spend in church. Children are more easily brainwashed without the parents being there. Too much is unsupervised. Hence, the bad behavior, the messiness, the depression. Mormons put on a false face of happiness, in order to recruit new members--but children can see through a false front.
Listen to your children. Mormons are not listeners. Their conversations are mostly one-way. Mom and Dad will instruct, and the children will listen and obey without question. Children love to tell you all about their day. You can do this on skype--whenever you want. You are NOT pulling them away from their cult, simply by listening. Make eye contact, by looking into the camera, instead at the picture of their face on the screen. I've noticed that Mormons aren't good at looking you in the eye. My daughter's in-laws live in excess--too much busywork activities, too much church, too many children (9!), too many grandchildren (16). They simply don't have the attention to give, one-on-one. I read to them, and teach them songs (not church songs), and play ball with them. The MOrmon in-laws will be no competition for you, so don't buy into their self-importance. Love wins.
Your son and your grandchildren need you! Please know this!
I would cooperate and go to the hospital when they tell you to. You could write an e-mail or make a call to confirm the time, without mentioning if it is the right time or not. Daughters usually reach out to their mothers at such a time, and I would not be offended by this, at all. If you cooperate with your son, he will cooperate with you. Your daughter-in-law will be pleased to have parent-figures who are genuine and caring.