Posted by:
Joy
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Date: August 15, 2013 04:48PM
Call the police, and file a police report. You also need to file a restraining order against her. (So what if people say you are "hysterical" and "over-reacting". It is better than being injured, and better than having your life ruined by someone who won't let you to.) Tell your family and friends that you will be evicting her, and when, so you will have lots of witnesses. If you have a brother as strong as you--or several buddies--have them with you when you tell her. I had the help of my brothers, and two football player cousins.
Some abusers are cowards, and my ex crawled away, crying and sobbing, and talking about our sacred temple vow, and trying to make me look like the cruel one. (That's better than a beating, too.) He didn't take anything with him. I packed the boxes myself, and dumped them off at his relative's garage, 120 miles away. I showed the relatives my injuries, and the relatives had witnessed first-hand the temper tantrums my ex would throw. I think the relative eventually gave the stuff away. You need to get her things out of your condo, so she doesn't have an excuse to come over, and violate the restraining order.
Yes, have the locks changed. Don't count on her cooperating with you, You will have to do everything. If you have a pet, get it out of there, and into a safe place! My ex actually went around the neighborhood looking for my cat, but I had put her into a boarding kennel, out-of town. Don't panic, but, still, be well prepared!
BTW, all recorded parties must consent to a recorded phone conversation, in order for it to be used as evidence. The cam-corder thing is way too much trouble. You want to end this quickly and cleanly. Besides, would you risk another assault, just to have it recorded?
The worst thing that might happen, is that your girlfriend might have trouble finding someone else (another victim). But, she manipulated you into letting her move in with you, for 6 months, so maybe she will set herself up quickly. My ex was extremely manipulative, and very handsome and charming. He married someone younger, in the temple, the day our divorce was final. She was from a wealthy TBM family, who could support him (better than I could), and set him up with jobs. He eventually messed that up, and she divorced him, took their kids, and went home to daddy. Daddy had their house protected like a fortress (alarms, a gated community, restraining orders for kids and adults) for a while. Eventually, creeps like your girlfriends move on. Abusers are not fulfilled unless they have a victim(s).