I just joined your board. Spent time in the church but was never baptized, although from what I've read, I seem to know more about the inner workings and beliefs of the church than a lot of actual members.
I have used your main page as reference, many, many times. Also, although I've never been baptized, I've always danced along the edges of the religion. I have family who are Mormons, I spent a few years in the church but was too young to be baptized without my parents permission, and they weren't about to give it.
Also I grew up in Calgary, AB. and it's something like Utah, where a lot of the people hiring are Mormon. There are Southern Alberta Mormon job sites, Mormon adoption, To be honest, I've thought of actually taking the plunge simply for the business connections this would provide.
Sure was. I humbly served in the Bowness area as a district leader (don't act like you're not impressed). I was there for 3 months and it was a decent area for the lord's work.
I really did. Okotoks and McKenzie towne areas were my favorite. I've often entertained the idea of moving back up there, so if some of you Calgarians just promise to watch my kids a couple times a month I'll pack up the wife and kids and we'll move northward ;)
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I was in First Ward (Glenmore area?)
Right now I'm living in Chilliwack BC and absolutely hate it. So I'm pretty much willing to do anything to get back to Alberta. Also I'm in my 40's and we've never had children. My sister thinks if I join the church I'll magically become pregnant like she did, personally I think it has more to do with hubbys schedule. 200 days a year away from home greatly reduces the chances of conveiving.
So I look at jobs in Southern Alberta and I find a closed website for Mormons only, I look at adopting in Alberta and I see a church adoption agency. This is why I wonder if it's not better to join.
Yeah, I know it's a stupid reason, but it worked for my sisters ex, he went from being a bum that my father had to bail out to being a millionaire snowbird. I even know an ex bishop who told me that he doesn't believe what the church teaches, but he likes the connections and focus on the family. I asked him if that was the testemony he gave, he laughed.
In the early 80s as a teen, I lived in Parkdale, between the Foothills Hospital and the Buffalo Jump for 5 years. I do remember teasing Mishies with my friends and spraying them with shaving cream (sorry if that was anyone on here! lol).
And again in Calgary just a couple of years ago. I lived in the Beltline area for a year.
I like Calgary in a lot of ways. People are very friendly there and I love the thunder storms. But the west coast is home.
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Hey, and welcome! It's good to see another Albertan on the board. I myself am from Edmonton, and I can relate to to the kind of south-Alberta LDS community you mentioned. Just my two cents, but I couldn't recommend joining the church for social/occupational benefit. Once you're in (as you know), you'll have responsibilities shoved on you and have to pay your 10%. However, I think if you called yourself an "investigator", you could reap (some of) those lds-exclusive benefits without any of the burden of actually being lds. I'm not sure what it's like where you are, but I've found the lds members in my area to be very kind and sincere people, very much unlike those in most of the stories I read here on the board.
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Ana! Holy smokes, never thougth I'd see the day I'd disagree with you, but here it is.
The first time I went through the temple, when Adam said, "The woman thou gavest me and commanded me to keep gave it to me. And I did eat", I threw my Coke at the screen. Ok, I mentally threw my Coke at the screen...they took it from me as we entered the Endowment Room.
So, long way of saying that anytime I see a dude trying to pawn off his responsibilities and choices onto his mate/wife, it rankles me big time.
OP: I agree with the rest of Ana's assessment with one slight twist: Just keep flirting with the idea you are about to join the church...without ever joining. You can work that angle for years and they will keep tripping over themselves to put their best foot forward. Job offers, extra business/contract, you name it...work them like a rented mule.
They love nothing better than a Golden Contact to add to their cap.
Hmm....... even with the number of Mormons I know? Hubby and I have messed with the LDS family members.
In a room with 2 family members, the Bishop, and two missionaries, I asked if a Mormon living in a country that allowed polygamy could practice polygamy. Bishop and BIL said yes, Sis and missionaries said no. The argument was still going on when we left.
BTW, it was a legitimate question that I have never got a complete answer for. From what I was told in the 70's the reason polygamy was outlawed was because of the "law of the land", and was part of joining the US. This used to be common knowledge, and this is where my question came from.
Well I'm the "nasty wife" so can I put all the money in hubbys name and then say that he's the one not willing to tithe? He is the main breadwinner in the house. Then again, I'm also in an interracial marriage, so I guess that's frowned on.
First, welcome to the board. Second, I'll tell you what I tell my kids. If you decide to participate in Mormonism, you'll be hounded for the rest of your life. They will want your time, 10 percent of your money and your underwear. They will think they can tell you how to live, whether or not you are worthy and how to raise your children. And, they'll have no shame in going after your kids, if you fail to stay active.
If losing so much of yourself is a fair trade for the business connections you'll make then go for it. Take it from someone who has lost a lot of friends by leaving Mormonism. I think it's good riddance to bad rubbish. I prefer my integrity to any so-called advantages Mormon friendships gave me.
It's a desparation thought. I really do need to leave where I am, and I want to go back to Southern AB. No, I don't "need" to be Mormon, but as I said, when it seems like all the jobs are controlled by them.
Although telling the Mormon family that I would convert on the spot if they found DH a good paying job hasn't come up with anything, so maybe it's not as important as it seems when you're looking at it from 500km away.