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rainwriter
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Date: August 20, 2013 05:21PM
I belong to a local moms group and posted a question in there today asking them about how they handle tank tops and shorts for their younger children. (I had read a comment on the "shoulders 2 the wheel" facebook movement to teach girls that shoulders are okay). Here are some of the responses, which perhaps not oddly enough, focus mostly on girls rather than boys. I know we've talked here about what in the heck people are thinking, so I thought I'd share what the commented.
" I always put white shirts under any tank tops or dresses... The shorts are hard cause they make those short but my girl is only 2. Probably around 6, 7 or 8 ill make sure all shorts are longer. Never sleeveless unless its over a swimsuit.thats just my opinion."
"Our kids don't wear tank tops unless its way to hot at night for them but not outside the house. if my daughters dress are sleeveless she wear and under shirt, if they don't touch her knees when she sits and stands they go to the pass me down drawer same with the boys for shorts."
"As a toddler, I'm cool with it, personally. Once they start to get older (my daughter is turning 4 and we're buying only modest clothes now) I phase into the modest clothing we'd like to see her wearing from then on."
"When my kids were under 2 I wasn't as worried about it. They would overheat easily and I wanted to keep them comfortable. Although, if the temperatures weren't really high, I'd usually put a shirt underneath. After my kids were 2 they would wear shorts to their knees, and their shirts had sleeves. I think it's much easier to teach them modesty if they've never known any different."
"I tried to maintain "garment" standards from the get-go . . . it's hard enough to navigate through those pre-teen, teen years without trying to "change" their clothing standards. Once you start on that "slippery" slope it's hard to reverse course."
"I try not to have my kids (son and daughter) wear the tank shirts at all, even if they're thick/wide ones, out and about. I always have a shirt under my daughter's sleeveless dresses.
I try with the shorts for my daughter (2) to keep them close to her knee, but she's tall and skinny so sometimes they seem kinda short to me. I've bought Pants-Catchers to cinch them in and have them wear bigger sizes to try and keep the shorts/skirts longer.
One of my friends adds ruffles to the bottom of shorts to make them longer too
I just think if you start them young, even as babies then it will be easier when they're older."
" I feel like when immodesty becomes an issue during puberty, that is too late to teach them to be modest. start young, why allow it if you are just going to change it the rules later?"
"I have often wondered the same thing. I have 3 girls and 2 boys and this has definitely been a topic of conversation for us in our house. We don't let our kids wear sleeveless. Now they do have a lot of dresses that are and some shirts, but we try to make sure that they have a shirt under or a sweater on top. I just decided that we can teach them all we can from the time they are born, and then by the time they are old enough to buy their own clothes, hopefully they make good choices about it. We will let them wear them to bed sometimes but that is it. They only fight me sometimes now. Its hard. I just didn't want to be forced to draw the line when I have been letting them wear them for so long. So we just decided to draw the line from the time they are born. If that all makes sense!! I'm not opposed to other people feeling differently either. This is just the rules for our house."
"We decided so that we don't have to explain later why they could and now they can't that we would just have sleeves on everything. It's not very hard to find cute ruffle or nice under shirts around here and personally I think sun dresses look better and much cuter when worn with sleeves. We have about two or three shirts for each of my girls that they are only allowed to wear as undershirts so that they don't wear out as fast. And then for the dresses that don't look good with a shirt underneath we have a few short sleeve cardigans for them to wear over.
Shorts have been a little harder because they stopped carrying longer shorts for a while but we searched hard and have been able to find knee length shorts for our girls. We've also gotten GREAT prices on them too so we're not paying anymore for a more modest style.
We are also pretty strict about swimsuits and they must be one pieces. I do have a rash guard style top and separate bottom for my baby that was gifted to us but where it is a full coverage situation we do have her wear that in rotation with her one piece. When our girls are in swim suits we do let them wear a sleeveless cover/sundress because it fits the activity.
When they are older and play sports if their uniform calls for certain requirements then we'll deal with that when we get there. I played sports on HS and had to wear certain things but when I was traveling and could be more modest, I was. We would like our kids to make those choices when they're older so we'll try to teach them now.
Something that has helped us keep our rules is we were open about our stance with our families and asked that they keep sleeves and things like that in mind when they sent gifts. Because of that everyone has respected our wishes and has always helped us dress our kids the way we'd like, even though my stepsister and sisters-in-law don't have the same "rules" we have. We respect everyone's right to choose what is best for their families and don't judge either if they choose to dress their kids differently."