Posted by:
sonofman
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Date: August 21, 2013 04:09PM
I am 40 years old. I am excommunicated. I have not desire to go back, but when the stake secretary call me to come see the stake president I go in and I sit and listen to him for close to an hour.
I have told my parents that I don't want to come back to the church, but I still let them ask me in to talk about it. Same with the bishop. I say I don't want to come back because it just doesn't work for me and then when he asks if I will still come in sometimes to talk to him, I say OK.
My wife knows I'm atheist but still asks me to pray and have family home evening. At family home evening she always gives the lesson and never asks if I want to give a lesson on my own thoughts and beliefs. I think she tries to give me the message that I need in order to come back.
I love hiking and art, but can't maintain a set time to enjoy them without guilt and a nervous knot in my stomach.
As others have mentioned, the church primed us drop all boundaries on missions, in the temple washing and annointings, the sacrifice of all things, bizarre ceremonies, mind numbing long meetings, and a never ending list of things to do. Some emerge from all of this more intact than others. Maybe some of us took it all to seriously.
An example from the mission is giving up artistic interests. Art is so central to who I am that just giving up art alone was very demoralizing and depressing.
I remember a story about a very talented violinist who sold his violin to go on a mission. It is such a sad story.
Anyway it is just a matter of staning up and enforing the boundaries, and I just need to keep working, but I just wanted to let this all out.