and now this from a friend's FaceBook page: "I know this is really trivial, Father, and You certainly have more important things to do. But (grandson) and I have been looking for my glasses for a half hour with no luck and we want to go shopping in (nearby city). And you know I'm not supposed to drive without them. So, if you have a second, I would really appreciate your help. Found the
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"I'm a Day Late And a Dollar Short" by Joann Larsen. It was written by a Mormon woman and originally put out by Bookcraft, but is not about the church at all. This book taught me that it's OK to say no, to establish boundaries, and to think for myself. That's all I needed—permission. It took a little while to disentangle myself from the church, but it gave me the courage to trust mys
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Hi Johnny Rotten-- There is actually quite a large number of us in the Salem area. I'm not sure who still follows this board or not. On one of the "other" boards there is contact info for a Salem chapter. We haven't gotten together in some time. Might be fun to reconnect. Or if you'd like to get together for coffee with someone just let us know.
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I think so as well. But what what kinds of comments can I anticipate--and how should I respond?
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I'll be attending the blessing of a new grandchild in sacrament meeting next weekend. I haven't been to church in over a decade and no longer think of myself in terms of mormonism at all. But my children are still mormon and this is important to them. As a naming ritual I think I can go and be part of the experience. Of all the concerns I have about this day the thing that has me a bit flumox
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What is it with religious people who think they have to share their beliefs with me? A young man just came to the front door, interrupting my Saturday studio time (wet paint brushes and open glue pot) with vague ramblings about the people where he’s from in Virginia, and then about my neighbors (who also made the mistake of opening their door to him). When I asked him what he wanted he rambled
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My beautiful daughter is bi-sexual and it has never been an issue for me or my husband (not her bio. father). Her father is gay. We married without him disclosing that to me. Three children and 24 years of marriage later he could no longer "fake it" in a straight relationship and we divorced. My daughter was married recently to a woman in a small court-house ceremony in a state that
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Thanks all. It's not the first frustration in this job search, and I'm sure it won't be the last. And no, it's not a big deal. It's just just maddening to have the opportunity to learn from a successful artist turn into nothing in the space of a couple of hours.
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I've been looking for work for a little while now. I do some art and occasionally even sell some of it, but I need to have a more reliable income to pay the bills. A well known (worldwide) artist lives in our city and recently posted a job opening for a production artist. I sent in a resume and almost immediately got a call from the production manager, who chatted with me for about 20 minutes and
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You guys are much smarter than I, and I am once again intrigued by the discussion. Henry Bemis--> The key word here is “meaningless,” pointing out that it is mind that subscribes meaning to physical relationships, which otherwise are merely cause and effect events. Language and mathematics are human tools to ascribe such meaning. However, the physical relationships you describe, and pa
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It was a party of over 20. They tried to get individual checks to avoid having the automatic 18% gratuity added. Didn't work.
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Thank you, SusieQ#1. I've read this when you posted it--and other similar things--in the past. I just want to let you know that your words were one of the things that started my healing. I was in such a bad place when I left the church. My marriage had failed, I wasn't sure if some of my children would ever speak to me again, and I was spiritually adrift. Your words about taking back my pow
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I agree with those who have said to do it your own way. Naming celebrations exist, and have existed for thousands of years, in nearly every culture. It is your right as a father to give your child its name, and your blessing, regardless of what the church says. Tell you wife you will be blessing your child. Don't let them make this some kind of shameful event about your unworthiness. Take
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Oh, dear. I know this feeling well. I always have high hopes of sending the mishies off with doubts in their minds, but always come across as an angry--and probably offended--apostate. <sigh>
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OH! This makes me happy! :-)
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http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-AFCd64h2YJA/UNeBtV-wzcI/AAAAAAAAWz4/KabHhggouJQ/s1600/onback.nooneknowsthetruth.jpg Is this from BYU? Anyone recognize it?
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Naming ceremonies for babies have been around for as long as there have been humans. They exist in every culture and every religious tradition. If your brother has such a ceremony in his parents home for this wondrous occasion in his family's life he has the right to ask whomever he wishes to participate. And if he chooses to incorporate his religious traditions in this ceremony that is also hi
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I left because mormonism just doesn't work the way they tell you it does. I was always taught that keeping the commandments and knowing the "truth" of mormonism would make me happy. My parents in particular drilled this into me, as well as hearing it in church. By that logic shouldn't the people you go to church with be happy people. Most are miserable. My mother is one of the most unha
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http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,637354,638668#msg-638668 Sorry I'm late for the bus... I've been thinking about this one since it was posted. I'm not sure what the wider appeal would be, but it was a very interesting discussion. B~
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Thank you for all your responses. You have confirmed my initial inclination to invite my parents to the wedding and to talk to them about their participation and their attitude. And Surrender Dorothy, I am SO gonna use that line when I talk to them! I hadn't gotten quite so far as to realize that this could be an opportunity for growth for them. Even in their 80s. Hmmm...
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Hello all-- I have been a regular lurker—sometimes commenter—on RFM for a few years now. I have been out of the church for nearly ten years and am mostly at a point where I can work my way through the issues that occasionally come up for me. Today I find that I would like your opinion on a situation. My beautiful daughter announced her engagement to her girlfriend a few months ago. I am thr
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Is this tax collected instead of tithing? I guess I'm not clear on how the system works in Germany and some of the other countries mentioned here: http://www.mycenturylink.com/news/read.php?rip_id=%3CDA1IS2A00%40news.ap.org%3E&ps=1018&page=3 Can people tithe directly to the church and skip the tax? Or are you taxed and that money is directed to the church you specify? Is catholicism th
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I used to. That or only order drinks in places where I was unlikely to know anyone. Not anymore. Freedom is indeed sweet.
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Thanks for posting this. I have read the discussion with great interest. One of the reasons I left mormonism is because as a life-long member I had plenty of emotional experiences there--and while watching TV, and listening to music, and reading, etc, etc. I could never reconcile those experiences--which all seemed the same somehow--with the one truly significant spiritual experience in my life.
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nothing. he's not worth the the two seconds it would take to call him a fvcking jerk.
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In my last ward, as I was on my way out, they sent around a sign-up sheet so you could sign-up for your meeting with the bishop at a time that was convenient for you. THEN they posted all the times on the bulletin board for a *reminder*. Not having paid any tithing I didn't put my name on the list. A friend of mine in the ward had something come up at her signed up time and looked at the list t
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lulu--You may be right although I don't believe long pants have always been required. robertb--I confess as well. I always read your posts. You usually have great insights and advice. CA girl--I don't live there anymore and I am not certain how many wards there still are. Just going by the fact that many people my age that were not mormon then seem to be now and wondering what would have cause
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I'd rather not say. I got found out here a couple of years ago, posting under a different name. I'd like to stay a little more incognito this time :)
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I just ran across this in the Sunday Secrets. It is obviously a mo baptism depicted. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-iCcwkwCPG28/UAsfdFVTopI/AAAAAAAAUII/BuAS5xSoHBk/s1600/totalimersion.jpg I was raised BIC in a small community in northern California with a significant mormon presence: four wards in a population area of about 15k. As I've reconnected with people over the years I've realized that
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