then and we got hit up for listening to the stupid spiel. My "husband" was always foolish enough to think maybe these would be a good thing. Oh yes. Let's do that. One of his gay friends really bugged us about it. He ended up in prison for sexually abusing scouts. I wonder if he is still in there. We met him in the singles ward. He did the video of our "wedding"
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My "husband's" birthday is on April 1.
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back with David O. McKay, but then I was really young at the time. Barely remember Joseph Fielding Smith. I think Kimball messed with our heads through those years as I was a teenager and in my 20s in those years and I bought into the RM and temple marriage. I'm not sure who the prophet was when I found out the boyfriend, future husband was gay. 1983 was the year. What a mess!!! That
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If they build one on the South end of the valley, they'll aim for Wellsville and Mendon, etc., Young Ward, definitely not Hyrum. Now that I said that . . . It looks like Smith is getting a HUGE temple.
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as I was not impressed no matter how special they thought they were. And they can say whatever they want about women having power in the church. Even the men know the women don't have any power. Not like all the men do either.
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and when to wear their underwear and which type obviously. Been a long,long time. But then I wore mine until I got back in a relationship with a nonmormon in 2005. My daughter is a perfect garment wearer and I know it. She has to have things I purchase for her such that it will cover her garments and so you can't see the lines of her garments. She has gone longer wearing garments than I D
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a few times. They went to fast and testimony with me. That was pretty "interesting." One guy was sobbling and snorted really loud and we couldn't stop laughing, had to get up and leave. I hadn't noticed before then how the mormons talk about who they are fellowshipping, trying to convert in their testimonies. That was embarrassing. I had enough religion. You couldn't drag
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and I've said before that my husband when I told him at the veil said WHAT? Even my TBM daughter jokes about it.
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have their tattoos removed. Maybe it was where they were on their body--if they could be seen or what. The guys my dad was talking about were other teachers he worked with and they were very good friends. He wouldn't have said anything about it if he didn't know what they had to do about their tattoos. He found out from my nephew's wife. She had one of those big ones on her back that wou
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And they had a "fruit room" in the basement. (I had nonmormon friends move here about 20 years ago and they wanted to know why all the homes had fruit rooms in them.) So some years after my parents died, the bottles started to crack and drain all over the fruit room and laundry room. My oldest brother (who has some disabilities from a stroke he had at age 42) hauled those jars out
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and others. I was glued to the TV. I couldn't believe what they went through in it and trying to get out. I'm glad my parents were mormons instead.
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the organ in the singles ward. My future husband knows how to play the organ. I didn't do so well. But I can't stand to do anything in public. I also hated giving talks and I refused to say prayers in church. I wouldn't pray in front of my husband. That is why he is still gay???? I know that isn't why. I didn't pray much with my kids. I'm very private about stuff like that. I don't w
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You'd think I'd realize who it is when I see it. She has sent me quite a few--every few months it seems. The "husband" brought one in one day and said Pauline? I had a friend named Pauline years ago when I worked at Thiokol. He knew her as I still ran around with her and "Jolene." They always catch me off guard with those letters. I don't read them.
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like the stake center, but only those who pay tithing can attend, so that is what it sounds like others are thinking. Power point, huh? It was bad enough before. Not only were the old people bitches and bastards, but there was just something so rotten about the temple. Like messy I wanted to be able to sit down and meditate. I had my huge life problems with my gay husband and I wanted so
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I was going through the gay boyfriend/husband mess and it was all so wrong. We decided we'd get married in the temple just in case or more for not bringing attention to the fact, and after all, I waited a long time to see the circus that was in there. We kept going to church UNTIL I was told my husband would be one of the next 2 bishops and I immediately went inactive. He waited until he w
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They had them when I was young as my mother was in the presidency, which is when she'd get me to babysit the kids in the nursery (alone no less) when they had their monthly work day I think. I can't remember what they called it. They did quilt on those days and they had a luncheon. I am on the local ward fb page as it is for Hyrum area anyway for news. And sometimes I need their help like w
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WOW! Now I should buy my daughter a really nice cross necklace. The twins' best friend in elementary school was a Baptist and they went to his house a lot and were good friends with the whole family. The mother did ask me once why I let them spend time with her family as in living here for a long time none of the mormons would let their kids play with her kids. My daughter wanted to have a
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The bishop in the singles ward told me I was the most attractive girl in the ward and he couldn't figure out why I wasn't married. I dressed really nice and wore jewelry. I didn't war heels as I am 5 11. My "husband" liked showing me off to his gay friends. They couldn't figure out how he got me as all their wives were special spirits. So no need for lipstick. I think some of it
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on I guess fb. I don't know where else I would have seen it. It is a lot different than any I've seen unless they haven't built the parts that stick out on both sides. And yet, not much attendance at temples. I wonder why.
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I had nonmember friends in Redmond and I went up there to tour it with them. Wasn't I a good little girl? I was going to say "hey, I hold a temple recommend"--well, it is in my purse and it is expired by about 34 years. I last went when they changed some things in 1990 I believe and my "husband" wanted me to go see the changes to see if it would inspire me to go to the
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okay now and that was some years ago as he died 15 years ago. He had a lot of friends who had tattoos from being in the service like WWII, etc. They all had to have their tattoos removed to be able to go to the temple. He was furious.
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She basically came from St. George to go with one of her mormon mothers. Her favorite one. She and her husband are working in St. George while he trains bus drivers for Princess who will work in Alaska and she does payroll, so both work year round. I've hardly seen her this year. This morning she had posted the whatever it was that Nelson gave last night. She just told me they had refres
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disabled brother when he'd see him at the temple and I just finally cut him off completely. I finally realized that his friendship always was about the church and that is how all his friendships are. I told him how I feel and I told him that for all the things I've done wrong in life, it isn't my fault my husband cheated. DUH! He's one of the main ones who told me it was going to be okay
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That happened a few times, but after I went inactive and my husband left, they wanted to change my VTs to someone else and I said, NOPE. I said Jean can come, but nobody else. We went to lunch every month. She protected me as the bishop would ask for my unlisted phone number and if her husband said they talked about cl2 in bishopric meeting this week, she'd tell him that is none of their busin
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Neil (is Neal Maxwell spelled Neal?) as he is named after my father who is Neil. It had nothing to do with a church name!?! My great-great grandfather I believe has another spelling of Neil. So it is a family name, but it occurred to me today that we had a Neil. And my BIL is a Thomas, as well as his son. Matthew is my sister's other son. What I'd really be upset about is if I was named
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I had a rough time fitting in in the church as a teenager, etc. I don't consider myself intelligent, but I fit in well with the scientists and chemists I worked with. I'm just odd enough to fit in with them. And they had their oddities, but they treated me SO WELL. I had never been treated that way before OR SINCE.
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He reads post mormon stuff on line, too. I had heard that nonmembers paid more at BYU, but I had never heard for sure and I never thought to ask my sister who went to BYU for a few years. I told him if I wanted to pay less for my education, I would get baptized, but then again, you couldn't have paid me to go to BYU and live in Provo. I tried living there for a week once . . .
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how much more of a lie religion is compared to Santa. I'd prefer my daughter just believed in Santa at age 38 rather than the LDS.
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Would he have lost faith? Every now and then he says something that shows me he clings to some of the beliefs. It takes time in a situation like this to put all the craziness together and figure out what direction you are going to take. Here I sit 40 years later living out the direction I chose to follow.
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