False comparison. Mormonism is so small as to be miniscule on the global scale. As an exmo or nonmormon, you get to choose from the other 7+ billion humans minus the .002% that is in the cult. Absolutely worth asking some concrete questions of the guy. I mean if you like him enough to potentially possibly marry him maybe some day in an alternate universe, you better be able to have conver
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Come on now, even I remember that reference. Oh wait, I have a crazy good memory, and my TBM family believed nothing should ever go to waste so since those books were still intact, we read em and passed em along.
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This^! FB has lots of tools to use to make your experience what you want it to be. A quarter or so of my friends are my TBM relatives, probably half or more are exmos, and the remainder are other friends I have from different interests. It's true that mine looks like exmoFB, not just FB. :D But it is helping me feel a lot more comfortable with my exmo-ness, rather than the guilty fugitive I
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Uh huh, sure...
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Oh ew! I have a religion themed family reunion this summer, so I am relating. Extract the fun where you can, I guess, that's my hopes, that there's some fun in there somewhere.
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Find out what day it will be, then look up her new name on the temple name oracle and say it to her before she goes. She'll be clued in that her new name maybe isn't that special after you tell her later the reason you knew it is because everybody gets the same new name that day. I wouldn't discourage looking to see if that's a day that has been reported, but okay Debbie Downer.
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In their formative years, religious free man taught his kids that he wasn't responsible for teaching them their morality. I don't find it surprising that they wouldn't listen.
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I got to help on a church potato farm too! I was very little though, which fits with the early 80s, I think I was about 4. What they had me do was perch out front on this gigantic machine and drop the potatoes I was handed into a chute that I think quartered them or turned each potato into several chunks to be laid in the row we were going down. I was terrified that the adults thought this was
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I would be most afraid of this friend you've been talking to, he could rat you out "for your own good", and three semesters shy of graduating would be bad bad timing. My opinion would be to finish this last bit, you're very close. But I never went to college, and I don't have to live your life. I can REALLY sympathize with living in the enemy camp though. That was the first half
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Is DH associated with anything other than celiac? Stop eating gluten, it should clear up entirely, takes diligence. My family is riddled with celiac and gluten sensitivity, I avoid gluten like it is poison. My sister married into a purported mormon founding family. The family "curse" is that the first child is a girl, and all the rest are boys. Kind of peculiar, but holding true
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Ugh, watched the video... Ugh! I was sort of enjoying Oaks' use of the royal we, there at the end. Pass the blame on to the local level, swear it isn't your fault, just reap the tithing, but make sure any negative results can be blamed on the the little guy at the bottom of the food chain. Like they have some very modern business advisors giving them hints. And admitting there is roo
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Is the phrase "the one true church" in their scriptures? I don't think disfellowship or excommunicate is either... I read that BoM too many times when I was young, but now I can say it has been decades! So I don't remember.
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Yes I do. Or I used to, a LOT. I think my dear husband is my recovery place, but I feel guilty for relying on him quite so much. I always wished I had a different childhood/young adulthood, but my husband says, "Without your past you wouldn't be the you I love!" That doesn't make it all better, but I am glad it resulted in making me so ideal for him, because he is ideal for me! C
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Understandable. I am hoping for the best for you guys. Surely not all mormons are as entrenched as the occasional horror stories we get here... Sometimes the spouse is relieved and leaves too, but I think that's just as rare as the horrible outcomes.
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When I learned what the name of the in-charge here means, Susan I/S, I laughed my ass off! The I/S is "Interesting Sinner", I believe. I laughed because it resonated, life has been nothing if not interesting. Sinner? Depends on who's defining "sin". Mmm coffee, swearing, and tank tops! :) Leaving certainly shows you a lot about the people you tell. I hope you only ha
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Why not? Since I've been coming here, 2006, the person in charge of resignations has changed from being just one man, Greg Dodge(great name for escaping! Dodge the cult!), to now being a department of multiple employees. How many employees work in this department? I don't think we know, but you can divide your number by a smallish staff to get the workload down to a reasonable amount. After a
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Strained, to sum it up in one word. I left their house like a bat out of hell when my mother attempted to lay down the law after I graduated. I had been saving up for my own apartment, but they did not care a bit what I was up to and were trying to establish harsher rules than I had lived with while attending high school. This included disinheriting me, not that I ever expected anything from t
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Ick! Now that you wrote it out like that I can see now that I get lovebombed every so often by my sister too. Every few years for a while when I was purposely avoiding them, but it's been every few months lately. If it were every few decades I bet it would have been more obviously lovebombing. I even told her not to let a relief society lesson make her feel guilty after one particularly obnox
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Google is your friend. I've never had an official lds account of any sort, but I know that I found the bishop for my ward and what time they meet. Not that I wanted to go, but I wanted to know who would come looking for me, worst case scenario, when I resigned.
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Shades of mormons in the temple... It's not secret, it's sacred! Is someone's straight white male privilege feeling a teensy tiny bit threatened?
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Pardon me, I didn't think anyone would think I was serious about the bat signal. Underwear gnomes...
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Believe it or not, we have religious people here going into fields where they know they will be required to serve people they would like to refuse service to for religious reasons, INTENTIONALLY. My BIL is one of these people. I think he is waiting to get established in his career that has not launched yet, and I am not sure how he intends to proceed in any fashion other than losing his job whe
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You won't find them if you search the key word 'polygamy'. From t breads here I gather that you might find it if you search 'plural marriage'. I have not searched for it myself, so I don't know how true that is. They want it to not be easy to find, precisely to keep people like your BIL entrenched.
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Haha, I didn't check in lately and didn't see this thread when it must have been up. :D Me and the moose are second cousins! :D I will message Susan I/S about emailing you, dydimus! This is cool!
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Aw... I think Koriwhore would totally join up with "us" atheists if only we could provide him with our creed and commandments. LOL That's not what atheism is. It must be confusing as hell to view this poorly understood "organization" made up of such a variety of people, every one of which has entirely different beliefs but can come together in refuting religion. Jus
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This is the angriest of all exmo forums. LOL We are the reason TBMs think exmos are bitter and angry. The morg does not block this site, but does block some of the kinder gentler forums. Wouldn't want anyone getting the idea you can still be a good person after leaving, now would we? Shields up!
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My ears were burning. Say what? Somebody I might know from real life? Or just somewhere else on the internet? I'm not sure that I'm remarkable enough that any real life info I share would be enough to identify me by name to anyone but a relative. But you can email me here: 4presto@Gmail.com
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Mormons who have served missions are well trained in sales. If he wanted to sell you on himself, it seems that it was working. With feelings having so much extra meaning to mormons, plus his knowledge of persuasion, added to the common mormon opinion of women, he decided to remove himself from any type of relationship with you as if you weren't even a person worthy of consideration. The dirty
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As you can see by a lot of replies, women aren't real people in the cult, and certainly aren't expected to control themselves. It is a very good thing you weren't raised in the cult. I'd say stick around and keep reading, but I think it will just shock the pants off you and then all these people will sprain an elbow, patting themselves on the back saying I told you so. I need an eye rolling
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Aw, that's even worse! I read the line, something like "For you, nothing". But as a paying customer you are certainly entitled to whatever he HAS done and the professional courtesy of being passed on to a different lawyer at least!
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