and that's one good reason for it not to take place. Tempers are too hot right now in your family. Your mother is scared to death of the embarrassment waiting for her in the ward; her facade as morg matriarch is getting tattered. But that is not enough reason for you to give two years of your life to a fraud. Your brother will also enjoy calling you to repentance--perhaps a little too muc
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I think your true values came to the fore with the birth of your darling daughters. All the chaff sifts away and you come to your core, which is equality and autonomy for those you respect and love and others. This is not compatible with the morg, so the morg goes!
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Of course, I did think it was RfM's Jesus Smith. You picked a good name and wrote a good post. ;)
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and let them stew about that. How judgmental the "righteous" are! You would think that in the face of sudden death, they would feel some humility about the frailty of life.
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about neighbors, etc., that "all their children were married in the temple" or "all their boys went on missions" as if it were some sort of cool thing. All it means to me is that the parents were able to funnel their children's individuality into the system, instead of letting them find themselves and their identity for themselves. I think it's just sad to hear those sta
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My granny used to call me "you little heathen" when I had finally exasperated her. ;)
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Please keep in mind, Chic, that your ex-2-b is oppositional to the max. If you say black, he'll say white. Just to keep you unsettled and uncertain--for the sake of getting you to doubt yourself your decisions. Then you might give in to him. His verbal abusive statements, his put downs, heavy-duty or niggling, are actually very predictable. They come when you are feeling good about yours
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Give him a pat on the head from me!
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It's revealing what so-called Christians think of the morg and, one could guess, about what morgbots are going to do in this election. Angle is their natural candidate, regardless of Reid's membership, but she very probably believes what her pastor believes. I guess the morgbots will have to vote none of the above.
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I see no hate or anger in this thread. I see only suggestions that range from the reasonable to funny! You are overstating things...again, maybe?
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suddenly your family members will shine their approval upon you once again. (although in reality they may be jittery with not completely trusting your devotion to the morg). The issue as I see it is a young person dealing with the disapproval of his parents when he strikes out on his own. The parents have said, "You shouldn't be doing this; you need to go on a mission." This trigge
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because it was a complete day off from church. There were no TV broadcasts, no satellite broadcasts, no videos, no attendance, and no guilt--nothing but playing and fun all day long and then Sunday dinner. Makes a lot of the TBM's wish for the good ole days, I bet.
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"No organization on this earth would make me or teach me to hate or shun you and your kids." That goes for me too! I just can't wrap my mind around those who do shun family for church. Excellent letter.
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that is a good sign that the marriage is dead and gone. I hope you are able to see it. You may still harbor the fantasy that your husband will "get help" and return to the man he appeared to be during your courtship. The odds of this happening are very small, mainly because the actual personality of your husband is the one he showed you after you had committed yourself to him. The c
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I was a sophomore in college myself when my good guy friend returned from his mission. He sought me out to say hello, and I was stunned. His eyes just looked lifeless. I made up my mind in that instant that no son of mine would ever, ever serve a mission. And he didn't. It was 24 years later when asked him if he wanted to go on a mission, as his friends were all gearing up to go. He sai
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He may have more on his plate than just being BP.
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Charles10 brought up an important question in another thread... He asked: The single, childless man interjects: Does anyone know exactly when this interviewing minors thingy started? What were they thinking? I know, back in the day it wasn't an issue so no one raised a brow. But what was the original purpose of getting minors into the bishop's office for worthiness interviews? Did the Sexual
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I raise my cup of tea to you for pointing out reality.
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I say, if they're going to pester our children, all you have to say to their children is the truth--"You can find out all about the church's history on the internet when you grow up." (Cue nicest voice possible.)
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than SuzieQ's experience is summed up in her ability to post that note of hers on her front door! That is pretty in-your-face. And with a believing husband to boot. I don't have the guts for that. I would be better off if I did. Pat of leaving the morg behind is taking the broader view, and when you get a broad world view, a lot of bitter emotion drops away. I still have some bitter
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A very wise book.
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How could a pursuit of intellectual freedom and expression replace a burning testimony regardless of the unanswered and seemingly contradictory historical questions? The question is rhetorical for her, but realistic for you and me.
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However, and here is where silly analogies fail, I can still see all the things that are out there on my deck. So, 'perfectly clean' is not required.
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to remember that you--yourself, WCG--have handled a lot of problems. In fact, you have handled (and are handling) ALL of your problems, some more gracefully than others, but you've done it. What your life has shown you so far is that you are capable of handling WHATEVER life tosses your way. That's the real security, isn't it? I think worry steals our imagination about how we can approach
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Not saying it is harming you and it is harming your friends. I say own what you believe and how you live. You have nothing to apologize for and I would also say you are being a false friend to meekly "love and support" someone who is going into an abusive situation like a "court of love." Some love. You would love her far more than they ever could by standing up f
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We all had enough to do with getting to school and work, etc., and seminary would have upset family morning routines, I guess. Sundays were enough. I didn't go even once and I turned out OK. Atheist and apostate. Like I said, OK.
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explaining how it felt. My suggestion is that you tell stories, relate in detail what happened, then your readers will have the emotion that you want to express. Show, instead of tell. Can't wait to read it; I am a big book buyer!
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