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A very TBM acquaintance and her family have been assigned to attend a different branch for the next couple of years. Its such a bizarre concept to me to try to boost numbers like that.
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Now think of handing that contract over to a brand new 8 year old and all the glossing over the terms of the contract. Well, I guess since they are minors, they'd need a parent's signature. And who gets to sign the contracts for the temple baptisms?
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What you wrote is exactly how I felt about continuing to attend TSCC "for the kids." I was BIC. I was torn at first because TSCC does make the system so easy for you to dump your kids into their programs and turn off your brain about what the kids are being taught. You assume it is all good, and it seems pretty harmless. After realizing my whole life, whole foundation had been built
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Grateful for the opportunity to... "True" or "so true" was the auto response in conversations at my student ward Fetch So awesome
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I was pretty shaken when DH and I had this conversation. You've had the advantage of researching and coming to your own conclusions. My DH tried hard not to influence my decision one way or another. He told me several times that if I had questions I could find the answers myself. He wasn't rude about it, but he didn't want me to just agree with him and eventually resent him for changing the fa
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Great! I'll email you later tonight when I have a chance.
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I lost my beliefs over the heat of the summer last year. By the end of the summer, I had started transitioning out of wearing them everyday. Then I bought my first pair of normal length shorts, and I could never go back to knee length! No more garments for me! Yay! Give yourself time. Guess what--I still felt like myself without the g's. If anything, I felt more attractive without having to l
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Yep, Friend. Teaching the 4 year old class helped me decide to stop going. I liked my kids, but I couldn't take the lessons anymore. And I couldn't handle music time...the kids had just finished learning the awful "ox cart" song for pioneer day. And I was having a hard time in Sharing time with the prophet worship and baptism pressure. There was a progress "stairway" on t
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Hi, Huntsville, AL native! I grew up in that stake.
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Lurked about 7 months, and just barely starting to post. I'm probably more interested in RFM than facebook these days. I figured that when I can give the back story on various posters and threads then I've been looking long enough and should just jump in the conversation more often.
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FCD -- I was born in Johnson City! I've been making my way deeper south ever since. I'm a couple of states over from you now, enjoying beautiful gulf waters.
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I don't envy you! Or your son. Sounds like a dreadful way to spend a few days. But I never could get into the spirit of YW camp or youth conference. After this camp, you can offer to sign your son up for this lovely program: http://www.sonsofhelaman.org/?p=program_summary "Graduation from the group includes having successfully conquered the addiction for 12 consecutive weeks. By
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Thanks for all of your responses! I've been reading for a while on here. Many of your posts have been helpful and encouraging as I've been making my way without TSCC. I'll be breaking the news to my extended family in the next few weeks, so I'm anticipating posting here to deal with the fallout. Nice to know you're all here for fledglings like me! :)
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Ragnar-- thanks for the suggestion. My friend has actually found the Compassionate Friends organization. I think she has found her version of RFM for her situation.
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Right...having answers based on lies has been a disturbing aspect of realizing how I sounded as a TBM. I like being able to honestly say "I don't know" instead of trying to pull out canned responses that I have been taught all my life. My DH warned me before researching the church's history that you have to be ok with uncertainty. I felt very betrayed that I didn't know anything aft
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As a BIC TBM, I was the kind of person who didn’t verbally advertise my beliefs. I figured people would ask if they had a question about why I behaved the way I did. After all, we were always taught that our examples would lead people to want to know more about us, so they could have what we had. Haha, right… Thankfully, that didn’t happen. The most coworkers and acquaintances coul
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L-a I heard that one at a hospital where I worked. Supposedly, the nurse was told that "the dash ain't silent."
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Since stepping out of the Mormon veil of thought, I realize how inundated some of my family members are with the church. They talk and think all things from the LDS perspective. (Me, too, not so long ago!) So trying to connect with the kids means asking about primary. Only one of my kids can even remember the terminology. We are hoping to get through the weekend, and then break the news
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We're joining the family for the weekend. We've successfully navigated a couple of holidays, but had some touchy moments when our young kids were grilled about primary. But we're actually going to the LDS service for the first time in months. DH and I fully expect the kids to say too much about our old vs new churches. If that doesn't break the ice, my DD is almost certain to mention coffee!
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The best thing my DH did was to leave a few breadcrumbs to peak my interest. And he gently pushed the envelope of my comfort zone a little at a time about contradictions in TSCC. Once I realized he was done with TSCC, I felt very unsettled and concerned about the future of our family. Over the next couple of months, I had to come to terms with his disaffection from the church. I realized if h
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One stake president apparently rediscovered the hymn "If you could hie to Kolob." At every stake and ward conference for years after that, we had to sing that hymn. This same SP had a dream of building a "conference center" in rural Tennessee, because the stake center couldn't hold the entire stake for conference. We saw his dream come true. The center was located a cou
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My DH was already reading RFM and was done with TSCC. He started leaving the breadcrumbs by leaving RFM up on his laptop, and the curiosity about what he was reading got to me. I read RFM cautiously at first, and felt so irreverent for laughing at some of the posts. But then I'd be sitting in church and thinking of RFM threads the whole time. I've been a lurker since last summer. First
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Just another lurker finally logging in to say hi. Here to toast my family's exit from TSCC. And to add to the celebration, a toast in my brother's direction for being a closet exmo that's finally coming into the light. :) Good to know that we're out of this together, Friend!
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