Thanks. I am signed in, but perhaps too many people are too!
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I exercise at the gym each morning and want to bring my own tablet so I that I can read Rfm or watch TV using cable TV app, etc. The tablet I have is HP Touchpad 16GB memory. It is about 2 years old. It doesn't seem to work, it just buffers and buffers and buffers with out going to content. When I shop everyone suggests tablets with the same amt of memory. Any suggestions? I don't want to have
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I am still married to a TBM husband and we agreed that he would pay up to 5% if he wants to and I can give up to 5% if I want to. That is really what you did for years, but since you were in agreement, it wasn't a matter of discussion. It is all about your value as a partner. You are providing the household with benefits it would cost to much to replicate. You really earn your part! Raising kids
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The Pale Blue Dot nails it for me. I love the earth and the people on it. Mormonism is one of the confident religions described.
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Dec 2013
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I left at the beginning of the year. My spouse has been active at all times, but not necessarily faithful. He has had significant issues with the Church and it's teachings. Now, however, he acts as if it was all fine with him. He says I have no right or reason to think it is not a worthwhile club. I say I live Church standards minus the Church, but he thinks I am being a bad example for our three
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Professional diagnosis that husband does not accept. Surprise!
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In my opinion, having a sexual experience with someone other than your spouse is cheating. My reaction would totally depend on whether my husband had been a pain to deal with before the incident. My gut would tell me that he would be someone I could not trust. So divorce would be on the table, although not automatic.
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Naricissism is at work here. He has all the answers, right. He knows how to get people to do what he wants. This behavior makes the Church so much less appealing. Why doesn't he see that?
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My husband is now putting pressure on our child to attend Church and Institute while at college. This child is obedient, studious and has good character and principles, but doesn't like the Church enough to spend time there instead of doing other stuff. The child is saying no, and TBM husband wants to cut off support. Why the need to control? Very destructive.
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Run the other way! I have been in Church 40 years. Decide for yourself what your principles are and stick to them. You do not need to be taxed (time and money) and oppressed by the Church. I wish I had listed to my Christian friends and family and stayed out. I really liked the standards of the Church. Those standards are free!
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Go back to your parents and tell them they were right. Tell them everything and tell them you now see what they meant. It all looks good from the outside, but it is what is inside that is rotten...the control and the conformitity and the crazy ideas. You need the help of your parents to get your head on straight. Do not see this boy again. The experience was not good for you. Trust me. I g
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It looks an excellent resource. I have never been exposed to this info before. I hope it helps. Thanks.
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My husband has been diagnosed with NPD and his parents definately have those tendancies. I see him struggle against their authority even though they do not have any. He has always idolized them. They both talked about how they did not like babies and couldn't wait until the baby could do something. Are you kidding me? Babies are the best! You just love them. But I guess they couldn't. My husband
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Bednar's dad was a non member while Bednar was growing up. He was super serious guy always and straight laced. I know people who know the family of origin. His mom's side is pioneer stock. I was hoping his background would make him more tolerant. The one I fear most is Packer.
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All points of view are welcomed. Until now, I never really considered that there was the possibility that the bishop could say I have brought this on myself by not attending Church...that all of life can totally unravel this way. But that is consistent with Mormon teachings. I am prepared for him re-evaluate and decide if he can live by the boundaries we set before. Lots of non-members
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The good news is that I do not need to stay for financial reasons. I have been "working on" getting a job for a year but have such anxiety and a lack of confidence that I still haven't. Now that I am not in the Church, I have no real friends locally. I wouldn't have dreampt that all my friends would disappear and not even ask why I am no longer attending, but I guess they were fake fri
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I think I am numb.
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My previous posts have to do with the hell he has put me thru this week, asking for an open marriage and insisting on total sexual freedom around the house. I have pushed back by having firm boundaries and telling him that he is free to do those things when he lives on his own. Now he says I need to attend Church again because otherwise we will have nothing but more problems. Has anyone else deal
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Wow, those are some powerfully good articles! Thank you.
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Obviously you are not together now. How long did it take for you to break up after you saw the incident with the baby?
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I am keeping my account because it give me my free genealogy sites. I figure that I paid for it with 40 years of paying tithing.
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I was a convert to the Church and married my BIC husband in the temple. We have been married over 35 years. He has always been into porn and masturbation. Not my business until he started to act entitled to all sorts of sex acts I did not want to do. Game over. He ruined many sexual encounters and turned them into weird negotiations. He lost the idea that sex with another person should be mu
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My advice would be to take it slow. In the meantime, whenever you give a talk or lesson, make sure you really believe what you are teaching. Soon you may find the only calling you can have without sacrificing your integrity is serving in the nursery. When your wife sees that her husband puts integrity first, she will know that she is safer with you than someone who blindly follows a cult leader.
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This week has literally been worse than any nightmare. I told him that if I come home to find him masturbating in pubic areas, I will ask him to move out. I do not want to have to worry about what he is doing before I bring a neighbor in or if one of our kids comes home and just opens the door with a key. And if he would not move out, I would, I do not want the house to be my prison cell. THan
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Forestpal, I commend you for your results. You have a lot to be proud of.
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No..he is a narcissist and is very protective of his public persona. If the bishop knew, he might not admire him so much. Is public masturbation a theme in porn where the women admire and encourage this behavior?
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He is blaming me that he is 58 and has yet to explore so many avenues of sex. I say his attitude and entitlement (and rage) were the hard things to deal with, not the sex part. He has always had his own shame around sex. I was a convert and did not grow up with any no-nos. I just felt that whatever 2 people wanted to do was okay. I did not always feel safe during sex with him. One false move cou
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Yes, he is active 58-year old high priest.
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Here I am again. Now that the open marriage idea fell flat, he says he will assert his manhood by masturbating anywhere he wants in the house anytime he wants. I maintain this is private behavior for the bedroom or bathroom but he says I am trying to shame him. He also says he will watch porn whenever he wants. I no longer attend Church but we had standards around such activities. My boundaries w
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