Thank you for the comments and advice. I've really been going out of my mind with this issue, and it does help knowing there are others out there with the same or similar problems in their marriages. I use to believe the LDS church promoted and was a champion of married couples working together to love and cherish that bond of intimacy, but sadly its just the opposite. The church has become t
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ThatLittleBriggyWentWeeWeeWee, Thank you for your response, and understanding the issue. As my wife has gotten older,(now 48), she has become more engrained in the LDS Church. Her activity in the church has increased over the years along with her beliefs in the doctrines as well. I believe she is finding the church more satisfying and fulfilling than me, and that is why she is shutting
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Chad, Thanks for the advice, and yes, I have tried being that loving and caring husband. I'm the one that tried to forget about the Mormon angle. I've tried romantic weekend trips for us out of town only to be turned down because that would cause her to miss church and violate the Sabbath. I've tried flowers, backrubs, foot massages, date nights, and so on, only to be told no, she is
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Anonnnnnnnnnn, I understand your point. But I am not demanding that she is naked with me every night in bed. All I was asking of her is that on the rare occasion we do make love, as in years past, that she not jump up immediately afterward and put her garments on just to lay back down in bed with me. What if I had started refusing to kiss her, or hug her, or show any sign of my affection f
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MexMom, Thanks for the advice. I wish I could have her be a little more open minded like she was 25 years ago, and realize the bassackwards things she is doing. I have tried to point out a lot of the fallacies in the Mormon Church, from polygamy to the garment issue, but she gets upset with me, and tells me the "Spirit" has always revealed to her the truthfulness of it. How do
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exodus, I have talked with my wife several times about simply going back to the way we were just a few years ago, but she adamantly refuses. We talked about working out a compromise, but she keeps stating that she is not going to sleep in the nude with me anymore. It makes her feel "uncomfortable" and she isn't doing it anymore. I don't know if a marriage counselor can reconci
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akeasha91, Thanks for your response. I asked my wife after her visit with the bishop, if that struck her as wrong, or odd, that she sought out another "MAN's" advice and guidance for the very intimate and private issue of her sleeping in the nude with me. She shook her head and said, No, it wasn't at all wrong to her. I repeated my point and added it sounds very cultish to me
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I've been a Mormon since birth, actively more off than on in my attendance at church thru out my life. My wife has been more active than I over our years being married. My wife and I got married outside the temple over 28 years ago when we were both 21. We did so because we were having quite regular sexual activity with each other for two years before getting married. We later got sealed in the
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