I go to South Florida about once a month for work. It is quite a bit different than northern Florida. There is a saying "the farther north you you in Florida the more South you get". Meaning that South Florida is more cosmopolitan and less steeped in Southern culture. South Florida has some really nice areas. Generally the closer you are to the coast the nicer it is, but then it c
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I've been trying to slide under the radar. My luck might have run out. We just got notified that the super enthusiastic Elders Quorum president has been assigned as our new home teacher. I liked the other ones because they never came. Our new HT/EQ President is the same guy who wants to give out candy bars to people who do their home teaching on or befor the first Sunday of the month. I'
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She has been surprising "adventurous" in our marriage. I have fond memories of a certain hot tub in Alaska. I think it comes from feeling like she can let loose after her repressive childhood. Unfortunately her parents are really good at subtly applying guilt in her life, after which she feels like she needs to make changes to "follow what the Church teaches." This who
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Ha ha ... I thought that was way over the top. But yes, she read it as if it's real. In fairness it was on her phone as I was driving, so she couldn't really explore in-depth. I questioned her on why she was using some random s.take president's opinion as doctrine
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Really irritated by it. For some reason she is still worried about the admonition she heard that oral sex is a sin.So tonight she found the following blog entry: "Oral Abstinence; the Key to a Happy, Fulfilling and Joyous Marriage" http://stakepresident.blogspot.com/2011/05/oral-abstinence-key-to-happy-fulfilling.html Some gems of quotes include: "whenever these questio
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As I was sitting through 3 hours of Church from 1-4 p.m. on a holiday, I had to find some comedic relief. I found it in Elders Quorum. The president made it a goal-setting and planning session for the year. Item 1: Improve prayer, scripture reading, and family home evening in the quorum. He code-named the initiative "Project Guardian" and apparently will be setting up personal in
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ruby7 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- "when my bishop asked me he emphasised that they prayed a lot and I was definitley the one who would "bring the young women of this ward a good wholsome example" (which I find funny)." I have a few thoughts on this. The bishopric called my wife to be YW president. They didn't know that she suffers fro
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Got a note saying that our new ward meeting time is 11 a.m. But rather than just a to-the-point message, it was full of flowery language like "we hope you had a wonderful Christmas as you looked to light the world with your acts of service". It then concludes with "may the Lord's blessings be poured out upon you, with love ... the bishopric". Why can't they just say wha
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Here are a few hints to ensure you have good relationships with all your grandkids: 1) If you are retired and have every day of the week available, don't serve as temple workers on Saturdays, just to show an example of "sacrificing your time and talents." Saturday is when your grandkids are out of school and have many games and activities that you miss. 2) Don't force your kids t
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Some perv started texting my daughter. We reported it to the police and they traced it immediately. He's now on bail awaiting felony charges because he did that to a lot of kids. So they can help.
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Admission statistics tell a different story. BYU has higher requirements. I've attended both and got quality education from both.
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So today was the last work day of the year for a lot of people at my work. The boss offered to let us knock off a couple hours early and go to a movie on the company dime. The team chose "Hacksaw Ridge". I thought it was quite powerful about the horrors of war and one man's heroism and religious faith. Anyway it was rated R solely for war violence. If it hadn't been for the reali
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Our 3-year was sick enough my wife didn't think she should go to church today. There was a virtual competition among my wife, my 14-year-old daughter and myself over who should stay home with her. Anyway, what was really surprising was when my wife suggested we all just stay home today. That is completely unheard of and astounding for her. Though it's clear that none of us really enjoy goin
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With due respect that sounds exactly like a post I read on cougarboard.com this morning and someone jokingly suggested he do that.
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Elder Holland came to visit my mission. One of the sister missionaries brought and elderly blind lady up to him and said she had great faith to be healed if Elder Holland would give her a priesthood blessing. Elder Holland thanked her for her great faith and then brushed her off without giving the blessing. My mission president was furious with the sister for putting Elder Holland in that aw
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My wife had a conversation with her father about the "old" temple recommend interview questions. Apparently one of them was if the married couple had oral sex. If so, then no recommend for them. Now she's paranoid that some of our practices might not be in harmony with the gospel. She's really worried about doing things that are "bad". I told her that it's really no o
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My 14-year-old daughter has a good friend at church. Apparently someone told her friend's mom that this friend and my daughter shouldn't hang out together. The friend's mom said that wasn't going to happen and they could still do stuff together. She wouldn't say who came to her, but I'm sure in whomever's mind they were following Jesus.
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Just got an email from our bishop inviting us to participate in an #lighttheworld activity the Church has put together. Apparently it has 25 things to do from December 1 to December 25. It just seems gimmicky. I mean could you imagine if social media existed 2000 years ago that Jesus would be using the hashtag #breadoflife?
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This dude took over assigning building cleaning a couple months ago. He never passes around a sign-up or asks if or when people can clean. Instead he just sends a random email saying "You have been assigned to clean the building this Saturday at 9 a.m." Um ... you might want to ask people if they have time and are willing. Anyway, he sent this out: "Hello everyone this is
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Last week we had tithing settlement with our current bishop. He bore his testimony that as we pay a full tithe the windows of heaven will be opened upon us. I was just thinking to myself, "yeah well last year you gave my wife a calling that caused a breakdown and a hospitalization." I was paying dutifully on my gross income at the time. Now I follow a different plan. I haven't st
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Here's a true story that happened to me. It's actually probably different than what you are expecting. About 12 years ago, when the housing bubble was at its peak we sold our first starter house for a pretty good profit. I dutifully wrote a rather large tithing check and turned it in. The Bishop called us into his office and said he couldn't cash our check. He said it wasn't really an in
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There's this older guy at the gym that I talk to sometimes. He served a senior mission in the same country I served mine. Anyway we were talking about Halloween, and he said he gets tons of traffic because his neighbor serves hotdogs and hot chocolate. I asked where he lives, because my stake president does that as well. It turns out these are different people serving hotdogs. But what I
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KiNeverMo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hi, I'm a bit confused. You do not believe, yet > for family reasons are still involved for now? > Your wife still believes? That's what it seems > like to me from your previous posts. > > You had also mentioned your recovery group, is > that an ex-mormon group? I'm just trying to figure >
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Did you go through a period where little things bugged you, that you would have previously not even noticed. First, I am the program specialist. There is a new policy that no announcements will be read over the pulpit and they should all be in the program in greater detail. I asked if that is a stake or church-wide policy. The bishopric member said "ooh ... don't ask that". Appar
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Our high counselor spoke. He said he did a personal study, and 200 callings are needed to staff a well-functioning ward. When in the world did a "simple" message become so complicated?
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I too am resentful at the pressure to marry and have kids early. That's what I did and it has caused a ton of problems. But my wife has mental health problems. I would echo the advice on counseling. Try hard to make it work, but don't try forever. The fact you have a kid makes that important to try. But if it doesn't work I wouldn't live life in misery. That's what I'm trying to work through. I
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My wife couldn't sleep that well last night, wondering if she really might be "sinning" in some major form as her father seemed to indicate. She woke up this morning and didn't want to go to church. I was fine with that, but then someone texted her asking if she could do a favor and take all the roles. Out of obligation she said yes, and so she went. The Sunday school lesson was
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Chicken N. Backpacks Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Sorta OT, although I imagine a TBM would say it's > Stan trying to overtake you. > > Anyway, who knows what the physical manifestation > of that feeling is? It only (usually) happens to > me when I've been sitting for a while, and the > feelings of hopelessness are overwhelming, b
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Just an FYI on a couple things. It was in another priesthood blessing that my FIL had a vision of my wife having 2 more kids several years ago. That caused a lot of turmoil but we did. As for the calling, she was released from YW president over a year ago. Lastly I probably have given her over 20 priesthood blessings for her illness. My discomfort is that it is an unhealthy crutch for
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Here's even more evidence that even a TBM would say shows he's off the reservation. Apparently my wife brought up a talk by Jeffery R. Holland about mental illness and treatment. My father in law said Holland didn't know what he was talking about. He might not, but the fact that my FIL would say that shows he's rogue outside even mainstream LDS. On the side of religious extremism. I wouldn't car
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