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1 year ago
cuzx
n/t
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1 year ago
cuzx
In 1975, they had streamlined the experience into 3 days before our lovely 8 weeks at the ele te eme. One of my viejito profes at la U de por qué had to study his castellano on the boat to South America. ¿En barco? Imagínate. Che, Primo X
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1 year ago
cuzx
n/t
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1 year ago
cuzx
Congratulations on your great grandchild. They are such a joy. I keep wondering what it would be like to experience so much technology as they grow up. At two, our oldest great is always getting her picture taken (smart phones) and shared on family chats. She gets to face time her grandma, who lives two states away. She dances to music her mom finds on Tic Toc, y mucho más. De todas maneras,
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1 year ago
cuzx
When I was teaching, I frequently brought “homework” home to grade. I don’t miss that. As a retirement gig, I worked retail for about 18 months and I thought, “I could just as easily be on my feet in the classroom and making 3 x as much,” but I was actually working a lot longer with lesson prep and grading factored in. Balance for me now is the personal fitness thing and a good measure
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1 year ago
cuzx
Using your Wii sounds like an excellent strategy to get moving. Other than my “setbacks” I shoot for double the amount of CDC recommended time for aerobic activity. Walking, even through the winter, has been very effective. I still need to pay attention to upper body work and include some weight-bearing exercise though. The sleep thing has been more of a challenge lately. Since my annual
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1 year ago
cuzx
Amigo de actividades: You could hike with me and we could do landscape photography together. That’s been my serious hobby since leaving TSSC and I am pretty good at it. Amigo de situaciones: We could meet up for an occasional dinner in Ogden or Salt Lake City. I say occasional because I’m watching my calories these days, just not so much when I’m dining out. Primo X
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1 year ago
cuzx
I used to write a list of New Year’s resolutions and fail. At the end of 2020, I finally wrote a resolution that I’ve kept because it capitalized on what I’d been doing for four months and I had a very strong desire to continue. ***** New Years Resolution for 2021 Written after a cold 4-mile walk on 12/30: I’m dreaming about the Southland on a cold afternoon in December. It was
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1 year ago
cuzx
You wrote, “I’m all about living.” I like that philosophy. I used to think, if I could live my life over, I’d definitely do more of some things and less of others. I would have liked to become more patient, more introspective, and more intuitive from my twenties onward; life isn’t lived that way, of course. We only have the present.
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1 year ago
cuzx
I have eaten a lot of Dole salad kits since beginning my weight loss journey in September 2020. I had to do something to get my weight and pre-diabetes under control, so I count calories with MyFitnessPal and I normally walk 20-25 miles per week at a very brisk pace. Anyway, I digress. DW told my about the listeria outbreak so I guess I’ll start prepping my own salads for now; it’s probabl
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1 year ago
cuzx
I don’t think any LMs were in on our session with the GAs in 1975. How rude! At the end, there was a young missionary who stood up to bear his testimony and he said, I want all of you to feel the power of the Sprit. He extended his hand and waved it slowly in front of him. One of the old geezers immediately stood and corrected him, saying that the Holy Ghost does not communicate in that way.
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1 year ago
cuzx
Right? I didn’t think you lived in Utah, Dave! Last month, someone passed me going faster than 75 MPH, the speed limit on that section of I-15, and they were looking down at their cell phone. I kid you not. I can’t find the appropriate curse words. Ay, la chin… Cuz X
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1 year ago
cuzx
It’s true that NDEs seem to conform to one’s personal religious inclinations and expectations, as you say. I’ve read enough over the years to confirm that aspect. I must say that I’m intrigued by those anecdotes in which people describe meeting a deceased relative whom they never met personally in real life. To be sure, I’m not trying to make a case for the validity of NDEs. I’m ju
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1 year ago
cuzx
Thank you, c12. It’s heartbreaking to see one’s children or spouse suffer with mental health issues, especially to the point of considering or attempting suicide. I’m glad that your son survived.
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1 year ago
cuzx
Olá, Jobim. No, my mission was in Argentina but I studied Portuguese and Italian at the university. I started posting here in 2003 as Lost in the Forest of Doubt and then as Lost no more. After meeting an RfM poster with my same last name, eventually I changed to Cousin Exmo. It’s hard to believe that it’s been 18 years since I found this site looking for answers about the Mormon histo
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1 year ago
cuzx
Thank you, Jobim. I just looked up some books by Allan Kardec on Amazon, which led me to more books I’m interested in reading. One is called “The Place Between Here and There” by Katherine Plant and Stephen Weber. He had an long involved NDE from a motorcycle accident. Now I have three books lined up for my New Year’s reading. Muito obrigado! Cuz X
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1 year ago
cuzx
The Radiowest interview I shared a link to has some very interesting anecdotes. Initially, Dr. Greyson related the story of a lady, I think she’d had a suicide attempt, who, when she eventually met the doctor, said that she recognized him from a conversation he had in another part of the hospital and she recounted the detail of a spaghetti stain on his tie from when he got the page or call abou
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1 year ago
cuzx
Thank you for that, Kathleen. I think we’re all a little more dialed into each other’s mental health and checking in on our feelings. Conceivably, I can be a better parent and grandparent in 2022, even in my mid-sixties.
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1 year ago
cuzx
I mean, on a surface level, she seems to be doing OK. The suicide attempt came after she got involved with some ne’er-do-well false friends in SLC, who really undermined her self-esteem, so much so that she couldn’t see an alternate resolution. If it weren’t for a final post on social media and voicemails to her own adult children, no one would have known and intervened. Thank you for yo
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1 year ago
cuzx
I told my bishop that I was having doubts about the church. He suggested that I give equal time to the scriptures as to the material I had been reading. My response in so many words was that I would have to devote 40 years of study to the other side of the story. I was 47 then. By next year’s tithing settlement, he knew I was serious because he had to review my resignation in October. Back then
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1 year ago
cuzx
https://radiowest.kuer.org/post/dr-bruce-greyson-near-death-experiences I used read a lot about NDEs when I was a TBM. When I was a teenager, a lady in our ward told me about her own near death experience years before the term was popularized by Raymond Moody in his book “Life After Life.” I suppose that I’ve always believed there is something beyond the physical world; maybe it’s not
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2 years ago
cuzx
forestpal not logged in Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Nature still thrills me, and I can only hope that > my grandchildren will live in a better world. > It's harder to find solitude with hoards of people > flooding the parks and former wilderness areas, > but I hike earlier in the morning, on weekdays, > and only when the air is less
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2 years ago
cuzx
elderolddog Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- >     The last time I saw the woman was at my > temple wedding. She invited herself into our > sealing room and watched the ceremony and then > afterward told me, "See, everything worked out!" > > >     I no longer remember if I mentally told > her to fuck off, or ju
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2 years ago
cuzx
My wife’s nausea began nearly six years ago, some eight months before I retired. The loss of taste started after she tripped and fell, breaking the bridge of her nose while I was convalescing from a major surgery in the spring. A year later, she fell on the beach and broke a fibula, on our anniversary no less. The latest fall, as I mentioned earlier, was due to a water leak in our bathr
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2 years ago
cuzx
I made her an appointment as soon as they opened up vaccinations for 65 and older. We got the Pfizer vaccines in March. DW didn’t want it but I insisted.
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2 years ago
cuzx
I’ll add one thing that’s been rough on my wife. She slipped and fell, suffering a hairline fracture in a vertebra at the end of 2019. Decreased mobility and fear of falling have become serious issues affecting DW’s quality of life. We did downsize to a single level house three months ago and that’s helped in a major way. I just don’t know what else to do for her at this point.
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2 years ago
cuzx
DW is a “lapsed” (non practicing) Mormon but she still holds onto her belief somehow. On a family chat, our two oldest children have been discussing COVID, the plague, and monkey pox lately (their second cousin is in the hospital with COVID). Anyway, dear wife tells our kids the end is coming and she’s quite serious in her assertion. Sadly, her perspective has turned quite cynical since her
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2 years ago
cuzx
I lived on Oahu while assigned to the 25th Infantry Division from 1983-1985 and never attended a luau. I’ve made up for it on many a return vacation to Hawaii. Here’s what I have to say about the PCC. I’ve been there on a rainy day in winter and a hot summer day in early September. The rainy day was a lot more fun. In 2017, my wife broke a fibula on our anniversary so I pushed her around PC
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2 years ago
cuzx
I got the call in 1975, before all the hoopla of opening them. My mom cried when she saw a paper about required vaccinations for Argentina. Here I’d been daydreaming about a mission to French Polynesia. In retrospect, I’m glad I went to Argentina Buenos Aires South. I spent 21 months in country and got to come home three weeks early to attend the block at the Y. Following that, I did an 8-wee
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2 years ago
cuzx
Thank you, Susan. That’s the one thing I was planning to watch today and it looks like my wife is recording it now.
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