For anyone interested this was just discussed by some exmormons in the uk: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TILxewa2OxQ I haven’t watched it yet but it’s usually good stuff
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Ugh. I Couldn’t finish it.
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Interesting and I can fully relate. The reason I’m back here again is because of realising I still have issues that I’ve buried. I left over 12 years ago. At the time I was just DONE. Also, I was aware of the gaslighting I’d face if I spoke up, so instead I resigned fairly quietly and told them never to contact me again. This might have gone well if I didn’t have Mormon family members.
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Back in the late nineties, early noughties, our ward activities and ysa dances were loads of fun. At one point me and some friends dressed up and performed as the Spice Girls; church dances were held off site with loud club music in the dark. Somehow later that decade everything changed. I don’t think it’s just that everyone got married. It was just so sterile. In that environment the fra
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I’ve found that when I go on lds.org if I reject the “cookies” I am then blocked from all content on the site. Highly unusual- I’ve never encountered that on any other place on the web.
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When my dad died (he was non-mormon) I had ridiculous comments hurled at me, one person even expressed surprise that I had a father. Mormons have crazy ideas about death. Sometimes they’re almost cheerful about it. It’s the worst.
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I never forgot that one guy who left the church a couple of years before me. I never really got on with him and he was all about Christianity all the time (a convert). When he left, he didn’t go quietly. He wrote a long email and sent it to every person in the ward, calling out their hypocrisy and lack of Christian behaviour. There was other stuff about Joseph Smith I think, but the stuff about
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I’ve realised the mormon church /mormons believe that the answer to all the world’s problems is for everyone to become mormon. It’s a handy way of dismissing complex world issues and human suffering. Additionally, mormons live a prosperity gospel, so there is a tendency to equate righteousness with wealth, and by association, an underlying theme that poverty and need is associated with a la
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It’s interesting to look back at that time. I started questioning things and started researching stuff for about a year before I finally lost my testimony and went inactive. But up until then I did believe in it completely. My experience in church gradually became so negative that eventually I had no other reason to go, other than believing in it. But I’m guessing I had some cognitive dis
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You think this is bad but... The second time I stayed in Utah, paid for by the missionary who baptised me, no less, I got to stay in this (what to me was a) huge, beautiful mansion in the mountains. Apparently it belonged to his aunt and uncle who were away. So very kind of all of them. Despite this luxury, I did not have a great time because his wife was super weird towards me...but that’s
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4IahEqXF_o
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I don’t watch football but it amuses me to see how English football crowds behave up north. There are some compilations on YouTube that had me in stitches. I would go just for that.
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I second that. I love Ricky Gervais. I recommend the Ricky Gervais show (it’s free on YouTube now), I’ve never laughed so much. Thats the main answer to your question. Comedy. Oh, and cats. My cat died recently and it was devastating. I tend to like people who like animals.
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Wow. Yet if someone does a podcast criticising the church in any way, they get ex’d. I guess if he is a proud mormon he can do whatever he likes. I think autocorrect was onto something.
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The mormons try to steal your non/ex-mormon relatives while they’re alive. If they can’t, or they get missed, or it doesn’t work, they wait until they’re no longer here. It’s lazy missionary work. I understand your feelings. Regardless of how unsurprising it is, it’s a boundary violation. Mormons just don’t care; everything they do is right, even when it is wrong. The only comfor
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I’m probably confusing people kentish, but I thought you lived in France(?)
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My apologies, this is the result of me not following US news. So this Almond chap is a mormon (thanks google). He sounds a bit crazy and not typically someone who’d support BLM, but I’m stating the obvious. I know very little of the US compared with the Book of Mormon. This is quite an embarrassing fact.
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In all fairness, Almond is way better. I always assumed Ammon was a mormon name. I guess I was wrong.
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I’m not sure I can answer adequately. From what I can remember, someone posts a photo and Facebook then asks if you want to tag the people in the photo. Because of face recognition software it already knows who the people are, so it makes it quicker to tag them. Perhaps if you’re not paying much attention when posting a photo, Fb does it automatically (?) I don’t like tagging anyway beca
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I walked though some woods and marshland near Oxford. Bit random. Then I wasted time trying to figure out the name of a 90s french rap song that came on during an episode of ER; I’m disappointingly none the wiser. (It’s the one where Chloe is giving birth, in case anyone can help me out!:-)) Now I’m working my way through my Stargate Atlantis dvd collection again and drinking the seco
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I was originally going to delete Facebook completely because I have a number of issues with it - the way our data is used and the algorithms shaping behaviour etc. (It was after watching a YouTube talk by Jaron Lanier, one of the contributors to ‘The social dilemma’ Netflix documentary). The facial recognition is another uncomfortable thing; however, I think this can be turned off in privacy
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I have fond memories of Idaho. The only place an English girl can ride a horse without supervision, drive a motorbike without a helmet and fire a gun...all in one day. Fabulous!
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I had to google it. How did this come up for you now?
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I watched all the crime dramas on Netflix, and Ricky Gervais’ show After Life (loved that). Then there seemed to be nothing else so I cancelled it. I’m not sure I’d pay for Disney+ but I’d like to see this show.
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Thanks everyone, good advice and much appreciated. I talked with my daughter as well and I think I’m going to tighten my privacy and restrict mormon Fb friends from seeing anything I post and maybe even delete them if there are any further issues. (I hate doing that though, it’s so hurtful when someone deletes me). Truth is being offline was nice and peaceful but I’m feeling quite isolated
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I deactivated Facebook over a year ago and in many respects don’t miss it. I’ve been really sick for most of that time but now I’m in the process of starting to go out again and Fb is a useful tool to connect, especially when you’re single and still trying to build a support network and new experiences. I’m in two minds as to whether I reactivate it again or not. Some of that is for
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Having children young is great in a way because you have more energy at the time. The downside is becoming a grandparent at a younger age. That could very well happen to me. It’s just going to make me feel old, but I can’t see any other negative (for the grandparent). But it’s hardly a big issue. It’s a vanity thing. On the other hand, I had a child with no money or career (or par
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Well, I felt I was, but I hadn’t realised how exhausting the whole thing was feeling Edit: well that’s got me thinking. How are we defining TBM?
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I sometimes like it when this stuff happens because then I get to make fun of it as well and it feels validating. Half the time when I use the word “mormon” here in the UK, people have no idea what the hell I’m talking about. So most people don’t know i used to be mormon because it’s exhausting and painful to explain. I end up embarrassed then. The exception is going to Skeptics in t
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He was in that cluster of personalities; IMO obviously narcissistic, possibly psychopathic. But yeah, based on the article and my own unfortunate experiences with these people, they don’t usually mellow with age. I have wondered how that would have played out too. Given that it’s not surprising that he was shot, and given that he’d have continued with the same behaviours, I imagine thing
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