Posted by:
olive
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Date: January 30, 2011 05:40PM
Right now, my husband and I are the only ones with a child (19 month old son). I'm talking about my husband's family as my family is not mormon.
My husband's sister got married in the spring of 2006. She was just barely 19. 10 months later she got pregnant but miscarried. I have talked about her a few times here. She tried to conceive naturally but to no avail. She then went and tried hormonal shots and IUI. Even after 5 rounds (and who knows how much money) she still wasn't pregnant. Her husband got laid off and wasn't working for about 3 months and so they stopped with the fertility treatments. In the meantime, my husband and I had our 1st son, still the only grandchild on either side of the family. He is now 19 months old.
This same SIL found out earlier this month that she was pregnant. No fertility treatments, no shots, she had just been exercising and eating better. She's lost about 25 lbs. in the past year. She's been going to the doctor every few days just to make sure that everything is going well considering her history. Everyone is happy for her because she's been trying for 4 years to get pregnant. It's still really early (probably about 5-6 weeks now) and we're all keeping our fingers crossed that everything will work out for this one.
2 days ago though, husband and I were talking to his youngest sister (she's 18). She was upset about something and it was pretty obvious. We asked her what was wrong a couple of times and then she finally told us. Some of you may remember that husband's 2nd sister got married last July at the age of 19 as well. Her and her husband had only known each other for 6 months (so they've been together for a whole whopping ONE year- dating, marriage, the whole shebang). She just turned 20 in November and apparently is stopping her birth control. Youngest SIL told her that was stupid as she is only in her 2nd year of college, her husband is in his 1st year of college full-time and he's already working as a fast-food manager full-time. Having a baby now would make things so hard but middle SIL doesn't care. Apparently she was "waiting" for the other sister to get pregnant and now that she is, she's discontinuing her birth control. It just seemed so selfish to me, especially if she does get pregnant right away and it's still too early to tell if things will go alright with the current pregnancy.
I just can't wrap my mind around this. Do you know of any mormon women within families that one-up each other like this?