Been around 3 years since I resigned. Pretty simple exit. Told my bishop what I thought, wrote the letter, and got a free divorce and a prize for leaving the church. (I'm sure you know the story) Today I got a letter from the church (the seventy) saying my ex was granted a temple divorce but I would still need permission to get sealed if I so wished to. My resignation clearly stated that I was no longer a member, to remove me from their records and rolls, and to not contact my except for a single letter stating my wishes were complied with. Now, should I respond? And if so, what are your guys thoughts?

I'd just ignore it.

Yeah, that is my original thought... I mean I really don't care either way and I have no emotional strings attached to the church. But I feel like they still "consider" me a member (probably count me in their numbers), and feel as they can still contact and bother me anytime they want. But after I thought of all that I started second guessing it.

Not responding is one option, but sometimes you just have to call people on their BS, so this would be my response:

Dear Mr. Whatever his name is:
Since you are apparently understanding impaired, I will clarify the situation as succinctly as I can. I resigned from your organization three years ago BECAUSE IT ISN'T TRUE. Therefore, I have no desire to participate in any of your silly rituals.

If you want to be even snarkier, add the following:

At that time, I also notified you that I did not wish to have any further contact from your organization. In view of that, I find your letter of [fill in date] intrusive, patently offensive, and a perfect example of why people have no respect for Mormons.

I have forwarded your communication to my attorney. He/she says you have violated my earlier request for no contact. We are exploring my legal options. If I hear from you again, I will be forced to exercise them.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/28/2013 11:12PM by shortbobgirl.

remove the word 'forced', and say (something like):


- it will be MY CHOICE to ( )

or


- My attorney will contact you Directly

don't say 'forced', it's a Choice

Dear Mr. ____ (Use Mr. it freaks them out),

I'm afraid you sent this letter in error. I am not a member of your church nor am I interested in ever becoming one. This information you have shared means less than nothing to me.

Sincerely,

No reason to respond. Ignore it. It doesn't apply to you anyhow. Put it in the Round File!

"How did you get this address? I specifically asked for no contact from you people!"

The letter is not about you, it is about your ex. If you wish to have input, now is your chance. If not, ignore it. It is SOP for them to contact the other spouse when a sealing is being cancelled.

As for contacting a lawyer, while a 12 gauge shotgun will kill a fly, it is generally not cost-effective. Trashcan the letter and move on.

IMHO, any response you send them would only empower their imaginary authority they think they have over you and everyone else. Therefore, my advice is to completely ignore it. After all, its all cow poo-poo. TSCC is all false, fake and a fraud.

Are they keeping your contact info on file? Is there a file on you even after you've resigned? That is my fear, that they keep a file on me despite my resignation, counting me and treating me as a member behind the scenes no matter what I request. Grr.

They absolutely keep a file. Your membership number never gets deleted. They can keep any and all records on you, there is no law against it. However if you ask for no communication then they are violating law.

Silly Rabbit, of course they're keeping a file on you after you resign. Just in case you have a lobotomy and then decide to return, they will pull your file and look to see why you left. Then you have the privilege of having to grovel your way back in because leaving for apostasy was way worse the fucking the bishop or the RS president on the sacrament table.

More imagery I would rather never have had. Would you people please stop it.

Respond only if it will help you in some way.

I agree with this. The one and only reason you should respond is if it does some good for you.

They don't really care if you respond or not. I'm willing to bet that you could write back with documented proof of all kinds of illegal activity and infidelity and they would proceed as if you hadn't written anything at all. They would write it off (as they already have done) as you are the angry bitter ex, willing to say anything to get back at him for some grievance.

Really, this process is a chance to further establish control over your ex and make him feel as if the temple marriage has some greater power... (See! temple marriages are so wonderful and important that we have to annoy your legally divorced ex about it)

It's not about you at all. I'd throw it out and forget about it as quickly as possible.

Does your ex have your address? Perhaps that is where they got it.

Those sealing cancellation letters from QO70 are computer generated (I received one myself; welcome to the club!), apparently the 70's computer doesn't communicate with the main membership computer. Like Joe Peshi would say, "forgetahboutit"