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Date: August 31, 2013 04:12AM
I experienced this quite a bit as I began to really distance myself from TSCC. I had one friend growing up that became quite distant as we began to enter into adulthood, starting about high school. (Which of course, happens all the time)
At that point, literally the only reason we were still
'friends' was because we were obligated to be such since we were both members. Eventually came mission time, and he was literally the only person in our ward's age-group that decided to go on a mission (and stay in TSCC).
He sent everybody our age letters from the MTC, basically saying that he was being a good friend to us all by telling us that we HAD to go on a mission and that it would be the best thing we could ever do with our lives. Nobody bought it and ignored him. When he got back, after having no contact with most of us for the entire duration of his mission (Most of us didn't even want to glorify him with a response) he made 4 plates of cookies, grabbed a few folks from the singles ward, and in one day attempted to contact all of us inactive 'friends' by showing up at our parents' doorsteps. (Our last known locations I guess) It was very obvious we were 'projects'.
But before that, while this guy was still on his mission, I started getting love-bombed by various people from the singles ward, many of whom I simply didn't know at all. They started showing up at my work at an eerily increasing frequency with the "HEY! Fancy you are working here when I decided to come in here! You should come to [insert singles-ward activity/church here!]" They also started showing up at my door with cookies and stuff on a regular basis, and the missionaries started coming by at least once a week.
Old seminary teachers and Sunday school teachers started appearing out of nowhere and 'coincidentally' running into me in various places and would often drop weird lines like "Oh do you know such-and-such girl your age? She is really cool and talented, you should start coming to the singles ward and get to know her!!"
Honestly, it was really freaking scary and aggravating. They were borderline stalking and harassing me, and even further they were literally using women to try to seduce and attract me into going to church, which was quite fcked up in my mind. You get on the project list, you get love (creep) bombed. It is a real thing, and it is often frustrating and uncomfortable if you are aware of what is actually going on. But they do catch some people in vulnerable moments, where the sudden attention and interest in you does have a major appeal. The only way it really stopped though was:
1) Telling the missionaries straight up that I don't believe in God and I am never ever going back to church. (which helped a little)
2) Moving to a different town. (which helped more, but they still tracked me down and within a few weeks, I got a call on my cell-phone from a member of the Bishopric in my 'new ward' (who was a complete stranger to me) at like 10pm on a week night asking me to have a meeting with the Bishop (also a complete stranger to me). I told him that even though I may be on their records, I am never ever going to their church, and I am most definitely not having any kind of meeting with a complete stranger, set up by some other complete stranger, about matters that had absolutely no bearing on my life anymore, then hung up. (which seems to have stopped most of the contact so far)