Posted by:
Joy
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Date: September 04, 2013 01:14PM
While your friend is looking for her answers--and she should keep looking, and never give up--she needs to treat her symptoms. Pain-killers are not the answer, and could be the problem. I wouldn't be surprised that after 16 years, she has tried them all.
Please. Anxiety in itself does not cause pain. There is something else going on. However, I know from experience that pain and illness can cause anxiety. I have celiac disease, and once I was diagnosed, and given the solution, my anxiety went away. Sometimes tests for celiac are not accurate, because the patient, suspecting she has celiac, has stopped eating gluten. Ask your friend if anyone in her family has celiac disease. Then, have her go on the elimination diet, and add wheat. My daughter gets the same bad reaction from corn. Allergy to dairy causes stomach pains, too.
When I was a little girl, I would get severe stomach aches every night, at about the same time. My parents said it was all in my head, and that I did it to get attention, etc. I call this the "Old wives' diagnosis. I was a nervous, anxious child, because my older brother (by 6 years, an enormous, violent, bi-polar person) was abusing and torturing me. My TBM parents were in denial that anything was wrong with my brother, and they told me to be quiet and "take it" or "stay away from your brother." I have PTSD as an adult. My brother would steal the food off my plate, and pester me at mealtime. Often, I got the blame, and was sent to bed without any dinner. That seemed to be my mother's favorite punishment, next to having my father whip us.
The stomach aches were caused by acid, which can feel like a knife going through the front of your stomach, clear to the spine. No ulcers, no heartburn, no reflux. I was too skinny. When I left that hell of a house and went to BYU, I loved living in a dorm, away from my brother. I also discovered Rolaids and Tums. Treating the symptoms, plus getting enough sleep (Sleep-deprivation was one of my brother's tortures. He worked the night shift, and slept while I was at school. Early morning seminary didn't help, either, and going without breakfast. Take the anti-acids under a doctor's supervision. If the doctor prescribes them (such as Pepsid AC), they are cheaper than over-the-counter. I had a recent episode of stomach pains, and the doctor said I needed to take more than the recommended amount to get results, and after two weeks, he took me off of them.
The reason I'm describing this, is this is how "anxiety" works to make a stomach condition (such as acidity) worse. Then, the stomach pains make the anxiety worse, and it is a vicious cycle. This is true of IBS and IC, also. I had IBS when I was under too much stress from my divorce and performance anxiety, while playing the piano and organ. IBS is tricky, and all I could do was treat the symptoms. Later, I discovered that Kaopectate has gluten in it, and the "cure" was actually making me sicker.
You really need to be careful with self-treating and self-diagnosis, and with diagnosing your friends, too!
Since your friends doctors have ruled out many of the most feared diseases, maybe she can relax now. The self-treatments for anxiety are actually good for you. Yoga breathing really works! It is simple, time-tested, and best of all, doesn't involve drugs. Mild, doctor-approved exercise helped me the most. Since your friend is older, she needs to make sure she is getting enough sleep. Maybe she has a sleep disorder, which can cause all kinds of problems. Does your friend eat right? Does she take vitamins? Probiotics are good for you, and are definitely worth a try.
Your friend needs to take charge of her own health (and not you.) If the elimination diet doesn't show any food allergies, she should go to an allergist for the tests. She should write down what she eats every day for a while, and when she has pain, and maybe things will add up. Carbonated drinks, condensed orange juice, tea and coke will put me on the floor in pain, within minutes. I can tolerate fresh orange juice, and coffee just fine. Your friend needs to find out her own foods to avoid. She can do that today.
You are a good friend to try to help. Don't let people criticize you for your good intentions.