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The 1st FreeAtLast
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Date: September 05, 2013 04:45AM
By withdrawing from the chronically dishonest LDS Church (kudos to you for acting with courage and integrity to the truth!), you've burst the belief 'bubble' of your wife, the one that cultic Mormonism 'programmed' her to psychologically embrace about being a "wife and mother in Zion." No wonder she's "trippled her activity"! She could quadruple it and Mo-ism wouldn't be any less of a demonstrable fraud than it is.
You don't have to return to the misleading and manipulative Mormon Church - ever. The choice to participate or not is yours to make and no one else's. You're the captain of the ship of your life; it'll go in whichever direction you set.
You have every right to feel angry. The duplicitous, multi-billion-dollar LD$ Church systematically misled you about JS, the BoM, early church history, and more, and took money from you (assuming you paid "tithes and offerings"). You were deceived and defrauded.
The sadness you've been feeling is quite understandable because you've suffered a great loss. Much of what you were taught by the Mormon Church to believe was 'true', wasn't. Your former sense of being/self as "a true believer" is no more. And yes, psychologically, there is no going back. No one can increase in their awareness and experience personal growth, even if it's a painful process, and turn back the clock. The only direction to go in one's life is forward.
In truth, there is no need to "feel pathetic", although the emotion is also understandable. You were misled by a patriarchal organization that has deceived MILLIONS of people. You were 'programmed' by the Mormon Church to regard yourself, other people, the world and universe, 'God', this life, an afterlife, JS, the BoM, and much more through Latter-day Saint psychological 'lenses'. What you didn't know in years past was how distorted they were.
In Greek mythology, a phoenix was a bird that died and was reborn from the ashes of its predecessor. In a sense, the myth applies to you: your old Mormon self, the product of years of LDS 'programming', is dying, as it needs to for the new you, your authentic self, to come into being. In the past 17 years of the Internet Age alone, countless former Mormons have gone through this necessary process. Despite all the drama and tears at home, your true self is emerging.
Bear in mind that we teach people how to treat us. You're not obliged to be sheepish (a doormat) as far as your wife is concerned. You may need to assert yourself and make clear to her what is and is not acceptable to you in relation to the LD$ Church and religion.
If your wife remains deeply involved in cultic Mormonism, you may decide at some point that you need to end your marriage. A chronically unhappy marriage wears on a person's 'soul', as it were. Don't be afraid to take this step in the future if you need to. Again, it's your life; you're responsible for the quality of it.
Below are posts of mine and news reports and articles that may be of use to you.
Feel free to post here as often as you wish or need to.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that your wife comes around to recognizing that Mormonism is a fraud.
Info.:
Your best chance of eventually convincing your wife that the LDS Church was dishonest with you both (and millions of other Mormons) comes from official church sources, as explained in the following posts of mine:
Church articles about JS using his hat and supposedly magical rock to 'translate' the BoM:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1009962,1010482#msg-1010482Latter-day Saints wouldn’t experience ‘Shaken Faith Syndrome’ if Mormonism was true:
http://www.postmormon.org/exp_e/index.php/discussions/viewthread/37675/A huge list of JS' wives on the LDS Church's FamilySearch.org website:
https://familysearch.org/search/trees#count=20&query=%2Bgivenname%3AJoseph%20%2Bsurname%3ASmith%20%2Bbirth_place%3A%22Sharon%2C%20Vermont%22%20%2Bbirth_year%3A1805-1805&collection_id=%282%203%29 (click on any of the "Joseph Smith" links to see the individual records).
The LDS Church's online genealogy record for JS' first illegal plural wife, Fanny Alger:
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.2.1/SP82-WTVJS knew polygamy "doctrines and principles" from 1831 onward:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1004646,1004926#msg-1004926JS made the wives of 11 men his plural wives as well as seven teenage girls (two were 14) and several single women:
http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/Your wife should read: "In Sacred Loneliness: The Plural Wives of Joseph Smith":
http://signaturebooks.com/2010/02/in-sacred-loneliness-the-plural-wives-of-joseph-smith/Between 2003 and 2005, LDS Church-owned Deseret Books sold "An Insider's View of Mormon Origins" by Mormon and retired LDS CES director Grant Palmer. The publisher's webpage is
http://signaturebooks.com/2010/02/an-insiders-view-of-mormon-origins-2/ (it's another book your wife should read).
Losing a Lost Tribe: Native Americans, DNA, and the Mormon Church:
http://signaturebooks.com/2010/02/losing-a-lost-tribe-native-americans-dna-and-the-mormon-church/Report by ABC News in SLC in Jan. 2012: "Number of faithful Mormons rapidly declining":
http://www.abc4.com/content/news/top_stories/story/Number-of-faithful-Mormons-rapidly-declining/rvih3gOKxEm5om9IYJYnRA.cspxReuters Special report (Jan. 2012) - "Mormonism besieged by the modern age" -
http://uk.reuters.com/article/2012/01/30/uk-mormonchurch-idUKTRE80T1CP20120130The New York Times on July 20/13: "Some Mormons Search the Web and Find Doubt":
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/21/us/some-mormons-search-the-web-and-find-doubt.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0July 2012 in-depth news piece for Bloomberg Businessweek about the multi-billion-dollar LD$ Church's corporate empire, annual tithing take, and relatively meager charitable donations:
http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2012-07-10/how-the-mormons-make-moneyAug. 13/12 NBC News report, "Mormon church earns $7 billion a year from tithing, analysis indicates":
http://investigations.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/08/13/13262285-mormon-church-earns-7-billion-a-year-from-tithing-analysis-indicates?liteMountain Meadows Massacre info. (involving Mormon men):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mountain_Meadows_massacre and
http://www.lds.org/ensign/2007/09/the-mountain-meadows-massacre?lang=engOn the titlepage of the 1st edition of the BoM (1830), JS had himself identified as the book's "Author":
http://www.inephi.com/1.htm (it certainly wasn't written by ancient Americans of imagined Hebrew ancestry!)