Posted by:
AnonTwo
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Date: December 13, 2014 02:08AM
I remember one particularly horrible Christmas when my son was about 5. His father had insisted on buying him a fancy, expensive watch. I had objected, saying that our son was too little to understand the concept of telling time, so why not get something more age-appropriate?
My now-ex told me that I was stupid, and that children need challenges in order to grow.
As predicted, my son was unable to grasp the concept of telling time. Then his father worked himself up into a rage about trying to teach the child how to use the watch as a compass, depending on how shadows fall as the day progresses. That was TOTALLY over my son's head.
Mine, too. Many years later, while seeing survivalist-type shows with Bear Grylls or Les Stroud or Cody Lundin, where they explain this watch-as-a-compass thing, I can't sit still. It is too triggering.
Husband ranted and raged and screamed at the helpless, frightened little boy. I begged him to stop, but he raised his hand and screamed at me to shut up, and said that it was MY fault that the entire day was ruined because I was a terrible excuse for a mother. His face was distorted with such rage that I was terrified too. He was much bigger than I am, and I knew I wouldn't have a chance in a physical confrontation. I didn't dare call the police. My husband was very highly regarded in the community and he would just put on his nice-guy face and the police wouldn't believe me. I was sure of that. And then, once they were gone. . .God only knew.
My son said that he lost the watch. To this day, I have no idea what he did with it (and at this point, 33 years later, he doesn't, either) but he NEVER wore it.
I am ashamed of my cowardice, but I truly didn't know what to do. And my son and I both suffered for it.
Some years later, we escaped.