Posted by:
Joy
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Date: October 21, 2013 02:59AM
I'm sorry you are going through this!
I agree that you and your partner will probably have to ignore your family for a while. Be nice. Send Christmas cards.
The Mormons will shun whoever they want to shun, for whatever reason. I sympathize with Gays with Mormon families--it must be far worse than what I went through. Still, I can substitute "inactive" or "apostate" or "unmarried woman" or "divorcee" or "bi-racial couple" or any race you want, for the word "Gay" and the behavior of the Mormons is pretty much the same. Mormons are full of hate, and they must hate whoever it is they decide to hate. Would you laugh if I were to say that it is not personal? What I mean is, it doesn't matter if you are the most wonderful people on the planet. All they care about is their stupid cult. Let them fester in it.
Do you really want to be around these people?
I had to leave my family, because my brother was abusive, and he was starting in on my children. The brother was extremely manipulative, and the family felt sorry for him, and they never believed us, or my brother's coworker, or his neighbor (who filed lawsuits) or my nieces. My brother was at every family get-together, and always put his hands on me, every time, in the hallway, or in the yard, or getting into my car to leave. My family enabled this. Your family will abuse you verbally, with little comments, eye-rolls, whispers behind your back. Like you, I really believed that I could stand up for myself, yet still keep my good Mormon family relationships. Eight years later, they are all gone--but the children and I are living much happier lives!
I like the idea of forming your own celebrations, your own traditions, and making new friends, together. Take a fun road trip together, to get away for a while. You are right to stick with your partner--WTG!