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deconverted2010
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Date: October 20, 2013 11:29PM
I'm a convert, active for 20+ years, found out the truth three years ago and lef two years ago. I've had so many emotions over the last three years, disappointment, shock, sadness, anger and so many more. But now I am experiencing something new, a real sadness for what my life could have been and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. I'm posting here for some advise on how to overcome this.
I am single, divorced rather and have come to the sad realization that even though I chose it that way, a great influence for me was my narrow mind that I should find a worthy Peter Priesthood. I'm so sorry I allowed myself to be brainwashed that way. To top it all I've had so many people in the last couple of months (mormons btw), coming to tell me that I should have re-married. I've even thought that the new rumour at church could be that I left because I never found Mr. Priesthood. This bugs me. Why/how did I let the lds church have so much influence over me. Furthermore I feel it's too late to even think of a real non-mormon date. I'm feeling ackward.
Then I think of my work and how I am doing so well now, but kind of a little too late. I've been with this company a long time and I look back at my first years with the company. I was doing great and so was the company. The problem? I took the advise against the spirit of contention too serious. I didn't speak up much because I wanted to be nice and a good mormon girl, which is non-confrontational, soft spoken and especially someone who didn't complain. I'm not a vocal or argumentative person but I can speak up when needed. However, during all those mormon years I took a lot from others at work. Had I spoken up and/or stood up for myself I would be in a better position. Or I would have left the company, had the problems not been solved. I know because now that I speak up things have improved tremendously.
I also learned to hide my feelings and not trust my own mind and gut. First from my non-mormon kind of dysfuncional home, the enviroment I lived in and then from the lds church. I learned to put my best face and only speak to say how wonderful my life was. Had I been better at expressing and recognizing my emotions I could have felt the real peace of mind I now enjoy. I could have made better decisions knowing they depended on me and that I had the ability to make good choices for MY life. I wouldn't have spent so much time on my knees or meditation tryint to listen to the Holy Ghost. The insecurity of not trusting myself made me make some questionable decisions. Funny thing is I knew in my mind what the better choice was but the Holy Ghost confused me with his silence. I feel way more confident in deciding for me. I know that no matter what I cannot do anything over, it bothers me to know I could have done better.
And so many other things, I just feel that I gave up so much of who I am in trying to be a good mormon and claiming all the blessings reseved for the faithful. All this makes me sad for all the best years of my life that are gone and it makes me angry for submitting my will to the church's. Anyone know what I mean? Or ever feel that way?
I wish I had been your average convert leaving within the year, but noooooo I had to be the same competitive person I am outside the church and prove I was a good mormon, as good as a Utah mormon.
Any words are welcome. I'm feeling kind of loney right now. And thank you.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/20/2013 11:29PM by deconverted2010.