Posted by:
sunnynomo
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Date: November 06, 2013 10:19PM
These are tough questions ...
I am a "researcher". When my dad was dx with lung cancer, I read every page on the internet, and then went through all my nursing books. Knew every therapy, med, prognosis, etc. When my son's lungs collapsed, I did the same thing. Became enough of an expert so that I could at least ask good questions that would lead to better research. When my daughter decided to join this cult, i became a "Mythbuster" - I would look up a question, and get information from both sides. I would decide which explanation made more sense. It always led to another question or "myth" about the mormon church. Even now, approaching two years later, I still find out things that I didn't know before.
I guess I like to know as much as I can so that I can plan the best I can.
How do I bend and not break ... that's hard. Sometimes I cry, but I hate the boo-hoos, so I usually just wind up mad at myself. I'm not proud to say that there have been times when I was so overwhelmed that I literally hid in my closet so that my family would leave me alone. If I really think about it, the way I cope is to just be BUSY. Chores. Projects. Paint the living room or plant a garden. Oh - that's the big one. Outside, doing gardening and yardwork. I don't know why, but dirt for me is very theraputic.
This probably won't get me many points here, but I do pray. It seems to help me put things in perspective. I try to remember that the whole world has problems and that alot of the world has had my problems - I believe that God has helped the rest of the world through - he'll help me, too.
Triumph. Hmmmm. I think for me triumph is usually more mental. It would be when I decide an issue is resolved. I would have to say that thinking about it, I have had many victories, but not a lot of true triumphs. That doesn't bother me, though - I think that a true triumph is a rare thing. Again, it is just kind of yanking myself up by my bootstraps and trudging on until the victory, or sometimes, the triumph comes.
Survive and move on. These are hard!! You either survive or you don't. I think it is a choice. Curling up and quitting sometimes seems like something I want to do, but it never lasts. I have too much to do!! I hate feeling sorry for myself - I would rather get busy. I suppose I let myself daydream, too. (I guess that makes me a multitasker). Moving on is the hardest. I don't know if it is a "place" we get to - I think it is a constant journey. Sometimes I feel like I have put a problem to rest, and something will trigger it and it is like I never left it. It can and does change over time, but maybe even when we heal, the pain is still there, just under the surface. I suppose I would say that those experiences are part of the person I am, so I accept and embrace them, along with all of the good and everything in-between.
I'm not sure if this is really very helpful. If I had a week to think about it, I could probably articulate it better, but this thread was just to intriguing to keep slipping down the page!