Not only was your life was 100% LDS, but 1,000's of hours of LDS Church indoctrination over the years "programmed" you to think and behave in accordance with church teachings and the Latter-day Saint way of being.
To a very significant degree, you've experienced a psychological collapse as well as one related to the culture and community you knew. Any psychologist would tell you those are major losses, ones that have naturally caused you to experience grief (hence, the tears).
You're beginning a process of re-creating yourself. The 'self' that existed that the product of A LOT of Mormon indoctrination and conditioning. But that wasn't the real you, believe it or not. Your authentic self was buried under many 'layers' of Mormon 'programming'.
I'd like to point out that COUNTLESS Latter-day Saints suffer from anxiety, a product of years of Mormon 'brainwashing'. The website with a lot of info. about how Mormonism 'programs' people correctly states:
"It may come as a surprise to many Latter-day Saints, but Mormonism psychologically wounds people with its fear-, guilt-, and shame-inducing teachings and beliefs. Unfortunately, the core message of Mormonism is a fearful one: Obey or the quality of your mortal life will suffer and you will suffer for eternity because you were not faithful to the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints during your mortal probation.
"As history has repeatedly shown, instilling fear in people is a very effective way to get them to do what those in authority have wanted. In the context of Mormonism, it is impossible for Latter-day Saints to exercise their free agency when they are being psychologically coerced through fear of negative spiritual consequences during mortality and 'eternal damnation' after death, including being separated from their Mormon family members forever. Mormons are afraid of many things because of how they've been indoctrinated by the LDS Church and psychologically conditioned by Mormonism... It is possible to heal one's psyche/mind from the fears that keep a person from being all that they can be and from experiencing all that life has to offer."
(Ref.
http://members.shaw.ca/blair_watson/ )
Groups of former Latter-day Saints who will understand from their own experience what you're experiencing can be reached via the following websites:
http://www.exmormon.org/helpers.htmGo to www.postmormon.org. Click on the drop-down menu: Our Community > Post-Mormon Chapters > Chapters in UT
Don't hesitate to post here as often as you feel you need to. You're in good company! In Jan. 2012, ABC News 4 in SLC reported:
"The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is losing a record number of its membership. A new report quotes an LDS general authority who said more members are falling away today than any time in the past 175 years.
"At meetings like General Conference, Utahns may be used to seeing members of the LDS Church show up in record numbers. But according to a recent Reuters article citing LDS General Authority Marlin K. Jensen, for the church as a whole, the record in going in a different direction.
"Elder Jensen told the news outlet times have changed, and 'attrition has accelerated in the last five or 10 years.'"
(Ref.
http://www.4utah.com/content/news/top_stories/story/Number-of-faithful-Mormons-rapidly-declining/d/story/rvih3gOKxEm5om9IYJYnRA)
In the same week, Reuters reported:
"A religious studies class late last year at Utah State University in Logan, Utah, was unusual for two reasons. The small group of students, faculty and faithful there to hear Mormon Elder Marlin Jensen were openly troubled about the future of their church, asking hard questions. And Jensen was uncharacteristically frank in acknowledging their concerns.
"Did the leaders of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints know that members are "leaving in droves?" a woman asked.
"'We are aware," said Jensen, according to a tape recording of his unscripted remarks."
"'My own daughter,' he then added, 'has come to me and said, "Dad, why didn't you ever tell me that Joseph Smith was a polygamist?"' For the younger generation, Jensen acknowledged, 'Everything's out there for them to consume if they want to Google it.' The manuals used to teach the young church doctrine, meanwhile, are 'severely outdated.'
"These are tumultuous times for the faith founded by Joseph Smith in 1830, and the rumbling began even before church member Mitt Romney's presidential bid put the Latter-Day Saints in the spotlight.
"Jensen, the church's official historian, would not provide any figures on the rate of defections, but he told Reuters that attrition has accelerated in the last five or 10 years..."
(Ref.
http://uk.reuters.com/article/2012/01/30/uk-mormonchurch-idUKTRE80T1CP20120130)
You wrote that you've "been sick ever since the Brigham stuff came out." A woman related to BY is 72-year-old Sandra Tanner of SLC. The following is part of her story:
"Since I was born and raised in the Mormon church, and am a great-great-grandchild of Brigham Young, I had very strong ties to the Mormon faith. I was about seventeen before I ever attended another church. As a teenager my life centered around the Mormon church. Because I was active and paying my tithing I thought I was in pretty good standing with God. I knew I sinned but I felt my activity in church would somehow outweigh what I did wrong. I believed (as the Mormons teach) that I was inherently good. I had no fear of God's judgment. Besides the things that were wrong in my own life, I began to have doubts about my church. Could it really be the only true church? Was polygamy really right? Why couldn't the Negro hold the priesthood? Was temple marriage really so important? Why were its rites kept such a secret? Did God actually command Mormons to wear special under-garments? I had many questions going through my mind.
"When I started college I enrolled in the Mormon Institute of Religion class. I started asking questions in class, trying to find answers to my doubts. But one day my institute teacher took me aside and told me to please stop asking questions in class. There was a girl attending the class who was thinking of joining the church and I was disturbing her with my questions. What a surprise! I had hoped to find answers to the many things that were bothering me and now I had been silenced.
"Shortly after this I met Jerald and we began studying the Bible and Mormonism together. As we studied I began to see the contradictions between the Bible and the teaching of the Mormon church. I had grown up thinking that Brigham Young was one of the greatest men that ever lived. He was always presented to me as such a holy man—God's prophet, seer, and revelator. Then Jerald had me read some of Brigham Young's sermons in the Journal of Discourses on blood atonement. I was shocked! I knew what Brigham Young was saying was wrong but I couldn't reconcile these sermons with the things I had always been taught concerning him. I knew these were not the words of a prophet of God."
(Ref.
http://www.utlm.org/testimony/chworldtestimony.htm )
You might want to contact Sandra. She and her husband (Jerald died in Oct. 2006) have probably done more to inform countless Latter-day Saints about the ACTUAL history of Mormonism, which is a far cry from the propaganda we were all spoon-fed in Sunday School, Primary, Sacrament Meetings, Gen. Conferences, etc.
On YouTube.com, there are several videos involving Sandra. One that you might want to watch is "Why Mormons Leave" (it's excellent) (ref.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGWvhhPpetg ).
Best wishes!