As a convert of 9 months, now an inactive member, I'm still very shocked at the manner in which mormons use the word, "love". I am very reserved in my use of this word, as I was taught that it should be reserved for family members and very close friends.

However, I noticed it being used right away once I was introduced to my ward. Constantly, people would shout out on facebook, "Love you!" to me (and everyone around them). It's almost like a greeting.

It's kind of shocking to me, and I often thought to myself, "Wow, I haven't even been invited to your HOME yet you 'love' me". What's up with that?

I noticed that, too, when I joined over 20 years ago. Members would stand up in FT meeting and say they loved everyone. I never did get to the point where I loved everyone in my ward. My DH said he really did feel that by the end of his mission, though.

Do people "love everyone" in other churches or is that an LDS thing?

Instant "love" is a fairly common cult tactic -- it's how they rope in the vulnerable. You won't find it in MOST mainstream churches but you'll find it in lots of the fringe crap.

dissonanceresolved Wrote:
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> I noticed that, too, when I joined over 20 years
> ago. Members would stand up in FT meeting and say
> they loved everyone. I never did get to the point
> where I loved everyone in my ward. My DH said he
> really did feel that by the end of his mission,
> though.
>
> Do people "love everyone" in other churches or is
> that an LDS thing?

Never heard of that before and I've investigated a lot of churches

For me, its been 'concern' or 'worry' as if your life is in danger for not going to church

And that's not even the worst of it! Wait until they summon you to one of their infamous "courts of love."

nickname Wrote:
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> Wait until they summon you to one of their infamous "courts of love."

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nickname Wrote:
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> And that's not even the worst of it! Wait until
> they summon you to one of their infamous "courts
> of love."

What? What is THAT? lol

Court of Love is what Mormons call their excommunication proceedings.

When there is no substance, form becomes very important.
Sprinkle a little 'love' on it to make up for the fact there isn't any.

It is not love!!! It is a very shallow and fleeting positive emotion that they call love. Oooh I have so much to say about this but I'm afraid to post it on here! I wish there was a way to do private messages. But "love" can easily mean "apathy" and "forgiveness" can mean "quiet resentment" in their eyes!!!!!!

Ruby Wrote:
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> It is not love!!! It is a very shallow and
> fleeting positive emotion that they call love.
> Oooh I have so much to say about this but I'm
> afraid to post it on here! I wish there was a way
> to do private messages. But "love" can easily mean
> "apathy" and "forgiveness" can mean "quiet
> resentment" in their eyes!!!!!!

Pamelaf3211@gmail.com Please.

Many Mormons have turned love into the equivalent of an "air kiss." They toss the word around as a show of how Christlike they are since it is a commandment to love everyone. Using the word in tandem with the testimony voice is especially effective. Throw in a tear and you have a home run.

Some of these Mormons who looooove everyone, will kick their kids to the curb out of love, demean and demoralize their own children who come home early from mission--out of love of course. They will avoid their own families if they have left the church, keep their children away from them, and all out of love. They tell their gay children that they must live a lonely desperate life devoid of romantic love, always on the outside looking in, and they do this out of love. They will hold a special court of love wherein they will humiliate you and force you to give the details of your most intimate and personal self to this committee, and then judge you--out of love.

You thought love was a special feeling that wells deep inside of you that makes you want the best for someone else? That is makes you care so deeply that you forget very self? Oh please! What were you thinking?

Mormons use and abuse sentiment in general. I have a very 'drama' SIL who is constantly over sentimentalizing.... It's super annoying because it just is, and my TBM parents in law eat it up and just love her. I am reserved compared to most people, even more so compared to all those Mormon love and feelings.



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TBM in laws use it all the time fake fake fake

They also abuse the word "Gospel" to mean the cultural norms and directives sent down from SLC. Nothing at all to do with Jesus.

Drives me nuts.