Posted by:
nomorefencesitting
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Date: December 23, 2013 02:44AM
A couple of days ago, my younger brother and sister-in-law came down from Mesa, AZ, to visit me two hours away. While they were here, my sister-in-law and I got in a discussion about tithing. She told me that my brother and her argue about paying it, and that she's worried about blessings that they are not getting because they are not full tithe payers. (I tried act supportive and don't think she saw me roll my eyes about so-called "blessings"). Then she tells me that she's afraid my brother will leave her if he doesn't take her to the temple, to which I told her matter-of-factly that he wasn't going to leave her because he and I had talked about it. (Sidenote: When they first got married, I tried to get him to leave her because I didn't think they were right together. I have since come to accept her as my sister-in-law).
Then she told me that the reason my brother didn't want to go to the temple was because the one and only time they did go (on their wedding day), he came out and told her that he was afraid he had just joined a cult. I also knew about this because two days before, my brother and I had chatted about this very thing.
So, I talked to my sister-in-law about tithing and brought D&C 119:3-5 up and had her read it out loud to me about tithing being one-tenth of a person's interest annually. Then we had a talk about what interest means. She said she had a lot to think about.
A few days after they got home, I had the same talk with my brother about tithing. He told me that the talk with his wife hadn't helped because she came home and immediately told him that they needed to figure out how to pay a full tithe. (I need to mention that they have been having the church pay their rent every other month because of how financially strapped they are and I warned them that the church would soon put a stop to this).
I then sent my brother three texts dealing with tithing: the first one linked him to was this one:
http://puremormonism.blogspot.com/2012/12/are-we-paying-too-much-tithing.htmlThe second one linked him to an exmormon discussion about tithing (and I told him that I would understand if he didn't read it because it is an ex-mormon site).
The final text was
http://mormonthink.com/tithing.htm and told him that this was the best of the three websites to look at because it gave the most "honest" view of tithing and the articles were written by LDS people (both former and current)who look at all of the issues of the church.
I haven't heard back from him (he works nights) and I'm afraid he's going to just brush me off again. I forgot to mention that I let both of them read my exit story while they were here, and they both said it was "interesting" and then brushed it off like nothing had happened. BTW they met at the same college I talked about in my story.
So, here's my question to the board:
1. Do you think I came on too strong with the links and the biblical passages for their TBM minds?
I also brought up stuff about JS and polyandry to my sister-in-law and (while I could tell her head was spinning) she asked me where I was getting my information from. I told her the church itself. She told me that the RLDS church had documents that claimed to be from JS and Emma Smith, but that they were forgeries.
2. Has anyone ever heard of this, or is she just making up things to try and distance herself from it possibly being true?
I am VERY close to my little brother (as in I helped raise him after our elder brother died and our parents were grieving).
3. Do you think that any of this will damage our relationship?