Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: January 03, 2014 03:24PM
If giving her the facts hasn't worked, then try some other approach.
The cult's testimonies are based on emotion. Perhaps you could appeal to her feelings. Do more listening than talking. Ask her a simple question, then listen to what she has to say. For example, ask her honestly, how she felt in the temple. How did she feel in the Celestial room? Has she ever felt the presence of Joseph Smith? How would she feel if she had to share you with other wives in the hereafter, "under the new and everlasting covenant" which is polygamy. Does she feel loved by the ward members, or does she feel used? Does she feel she has true friendships that are not based on her obeying and fulfilling her calling? Is she always in the mood to sit for 3 hours, or is she put off by the boredom, repetition, screaming children. Don't mention these bad things, though. Let HER bring them up, and then you listen with sympathy.
I personally don't believe Mormonism to be a religion of happiness. I think Mormons are oppressed, bored, unhappy, discouraged, frustrated, and even abused. She needs to be comfortable enough around you to tell you she's unhappy. Most Mormons will never admit that.
Another approach is to give her more in life. This is the positive approach. Don't say anything negative about Mormons. Let her know she is loved--give her real love--not just the weak Mormon conditional love. Keep her entertained and vital. Her time is too valuable to waste in repeating the same lies over and over every Sunday, and cleaning the building on Saturday, and teaching the lies to others. She would spend Sundays with you, and your family and friends. Go outdoors into the fresh air. Take her skiing, take her out for Sunday brunch--you know what she likes to do. My husband did this, when everything else failed. Within 9 months, I chose being with my family, and living a happy life with them, instead of sitting and performing in meetings and being bored into hopelessness. You are her future! The future is bright! The world outside of Mormonism is filled with endless possibilities! When she learns this, she will want to live it.