Posted by:
gungholierthanthou
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Date: January 21, 2014 10:35AM
In response to Devashoe on the original thread: I don't think this tape is proof that Mormonism is the worst religion on the planet, as you stated. Rather, I think Bednar's behavior with this boy is typical of indoctrinating adults who are either oblivious to the confining, weird feelings such behaviors evoke, or they are consciously using those behaviors in a not-so-subtle way. What I said about the strange emotional effects of the temple ceremony, and by Bednar's actions, are echoed once again in this thread by Ladell.
There is a "piling on" habit on this board, and maybe some of the responders to the Bednar video fit the category. But there is also a genuine, valid complaint here. This wasn't ring around the rosie, it was a stranger taking advantage of his power position, the context, and the innocence of that boy, and invading his space without permission.
I'm a therapist, and I've treated dozens of abuse survivors. Just because there are intrusive behaviors depicted in this video that can be defined as abusive does not autimatically imply that Bednar is a molester, or that this boy is destined for more abuse. That is not the point or the intended inference. It is more of a desensitizing thing. Like EMDR, or flooding, or systematic desensitization, or any of the other techniques that are used to diminish anxiety reactions, you can expect this boy, or at least some kids, to be less reactive to an intrusion the next time it happens. Molesters pick up on cues from kids who have been desensitized, and mark them for grooming and later for victimization. This video is an example of that kind of experience, intended by Bednar or not, and he is either unaware of the potential effects of his actions, or he is intentionally using his actions to increase the likelihood that this boy will be submissive, obediant to his priesthood leaders, etc.