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mondaymorning
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Date: February 27, 2014 04:18PM
So I wrote a long back story to this which I deemed unnecessary to the point I was trying to make. I've included it below if anyone is actually interested.
Here's the short version:
I once went out with a girl who was so in love with the church that she wouldn't even consider going on a single date with a guy without him being an RM. We talked for a long time about it one night while I was still a TBM.
As I think back to our conversation about how much love she has for the church I wondered this simple thought: Why didn't you go on a mission? If you love the church so much and you think your home absolutely needs an RM in it, why aren't you the RM? Why is it that girls get the pleasure of being so holier-than-thou choosy about the guys they date based on missions while they don't have the... we'll call it faith... to go themselves? All things equal the only person who should be able to say they only want an RM is an RM. These girls who discriminate have no idea what it's like to put life on hold for two years to go work 18 hour days at your own expense and get nothing out of it.
Let me add that I'm happily married to a nevermo. I was just thinking about these girls and how they 'require' someone who sacrificed to go on a mission while they were sitting at home.
Anyone else have that thought before?
Original story below
Once upon a time in a singles ward I had a MAJOR crush one of the fine sisters in the singles ward. I say sister both because of the Mormon custom of addressing others and because she was the sister of a good friend of mine in the ward.
I was an RM of about 2 years and she was a grad student. We'd known each other for many years being that I was friends with her brother and we actually hit it off well. We never could quite get our timing right as she dated a guy when I was single and I dated another girl while she was single.
Finally one fine October we were both single and we started to do what every apostle is afraid of - Hanging out without going on a traditional date! OMG!!!
We talked for quite some time about life, where we wanted ours to go and what the church meant to us. I was still very TBM at the time and was impressed by her fervor of church support. We went out once and it was apparent very quickly that we weren't as good a match as we thought we were. We were adult about it and remained friends.
As time went by we fell out of touch. She got married and I stopped being active followed by leaving completely. I had no shame of my new choice and one St. Patrick's day posted a picture of myself holding a green beer with some friends. She was the first to comment on it saying simply "hope it was good." Clearly that is a passive aggressive Mormon way of saying, "I hope it was good because it's sending you to HELL!"
I ignored the comment, but the next day, while obviously hung over, I went through her Facebook posts from the previous few months. She devoted 99% of her time to trying to push the church on her non-member friends. She had one blathering post about being so grateful for being married to a worthy RM and how all guys should go on missions. She has younger brothers so I'm sure it's partly directed at them.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/27/2014 04:20PM by mondaymorning.