Posted by:
newnameabigail
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Date: March 10, 2014 03:01PM
Okay I followed the Original thread and a few things were remarkable for me.
First I would buy her story. had some similar cases in my stakes where husbands and fathers having also affairs. One was a bishop though and had x children.
OP had mentioned that she was about going to church again after being inactive. another argued what has this topic to do with recovery from Mormonism? A lot. OP doesn't say anything about her own testimony - maybe she decided to become active again and then this story happens. She wonders how he can still claim to be worthy by having her in bed. A legit question to me. Also a legitimate question to ask why the wife will endure instead of saying anything.
Only because of the children? My parents were divorced when I was 11 - our family was released after the separation. My Father refused to pay any child support to his 4 children from 2 month up to 11 years. My mother made up alone. raised us with love and did two jobs to survive. All of us become reliable academic persons. Maybe a good point to start exploring a morgswife selfworth and selfrespect and her role.
I don't think having an affair with a married guy is a good idea - but besides that - Both are adults, right? As I got it they were somehow dating ten years ago? shared memories can be a great booster. This is no excuse for them but; when he is unhappy with his decision and now see what he maybe could have instead and she maybe desires deep down inside the idea of having a husband and being a mother what brings up an unhealthy mixture of unfulilled longings.
Who are we to judge them? Who are we to wish her cancer? To call her nasty or psychopath a person with no moral a liar? Noone of us knows their both deeper motivation to act like they do. Maybe even they dont.
Do you think she is really that coolminded - then she wouldn't post here but in a po rnsite to present him as a trophy. Have you ever tried to see her maybe desparateness with this situation? Two sentences concerned me: " I know he wouldn't leave his wife. That's my guts feeling." and " I have an affair (I'm rational) he's talking about love. " between all the I take it so cool and I'm not accountable to anyone this two sentences breaks my heart. And show the other side of the coin.
I don't excuse the affair. Cheating is always wrong. But this again shows me there is not only black or white, good or evil.