Posted by:
smo
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Date: March 26, 2014 10:35AM
I vent this out with a face palm.
My TBM in-laws are in their early 80's.
They've followed the morg script to a T. Married young, tithe payers, callings, you name it.
Today they are broke, with zero retirement, living hand to mouth. All the years of magical thinking self-talk ("blessings come after the trial of your faith", or "the Lord will bless in mysterious ways, etc) didn't work for them.
But critical thinking about the reality of their situation will NEVER, ever take place in their own brains.
They both did zero college. Zero financial planning (what's that??). And have had zero interest in "worldly" things. Oh..except for Obama stinks and who BYU is playing in FB.
FIL wears a different mis-matched collection of D.I. clothes everyday. Every conversation starts about the church, or about this brother or that sister. Or what family history errand he's running to downtown (SLC).
Both can't stop talking about how blessed they are. Other siblings talk about their unshakeable testimonies.
What's weird is...they almost relish in their piety. What oozes off them is: "after all...this life is but a blip, the real blessings will come in the next life, in eternity"
FIL was 22 when he got married, MIL was a few days shy of 18.
Had 8 kids, all spaced 18-months apart. All 8 kids were birthed by the time MIL was 30 years old.
I married the baby. (For years when my DW and MIL went places, they'd always get comments about how they looked like sisters).
We left the morg recently (12-18 months ago, the entire family). Yet, we're the only ones helping them financially. Bluntly, if it weren't for our financial help, they'd be toast.
Over the years this has included: cash, trips, gift cards, cars (insurance, yearly renewals too)
All other siblings are TBM and don't offer a dime.
We do it because: we can and they're my freaking wife's parents.
From time to time we hear what goes on in their ward as we have an acquaintance there.
My MIL got up during last month's testimony meeting and it was all about how they had this $95 bill arrive that was unexpected. And how she reached into her pocket and found $100 bill.
I PUT IT THERE when they were here last!! (Who else would have!?)
But to MIL, it was a miracle and a reminder how the Lard watches over and blesses those who are obedient. She even said how nice it was to have $5 left over so her and FIL could get ice cream cones (I'm surprised she didn't first give the bishop $10 for tithing...hell, she probably did!)
They will be showing up in approx 30 minutes from now. We invite them to come over weekly to help out in the house and yard.
What will I see at the doorstep?
Two people in their 80's who have the intellect of 16-year olds.
Two people completely comfortable being takers in this world (last week MIL made sure to place the car registration renewal on our dining room table...for the car WE GAVE THEM)
Two people completely comfortable in their piety.
Two people bought and sold down the river, ground into powder with their very humanity stripped from them - tired people.
Two people who'll look for any hint of a garment smile when I answer the door, then look flustered when it ain't there (you can see it in their faces!)
Two people who feel soooo blessed to be able to come to their daughter's home every week to eek out the money they need to make ends meet.
But they are soooo blessed to have the gospel in their lives.
ALL OF THIS IN THE YEAR 2014!
Now I'm done. Face palm.