And he's really depressed. I think part of has to with my moms passing away in November. He's currently taking a nap in his bedroom. My younger sister in the room besides him on the computer. I'm typing this from my cell phone.
I'm not sure about anything for Easter at the moment.maybe we'll skip church I hope!




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I hope he's ok.

So do I. I've been worried about him a lot since we buried my mom last November. I've been a little depressed since then. But not as much as him.

I wonder if an anti-depressant or an anti-anxiety medicine might help him. He's been through a lot in the past half-year.

Hope Poncho (or is it Pancho?) curls up with you tonight.

Its Poncho. He always cuddles with me at bedtime.

He's on some pills for it. I'm not sure what they're named.

He'll be hurting for a while yet.

The fact you are there for him is good.

I often let poncho cuddle with him. I think it helps.

you two are depressed. but I admire you. you seem to be coping very well and are trying very hard to make life work again. it takes a lot of energy out of you and is very draining.

Awww, I would call that normal. Holidays are the worst after the loss of a loved one. Especially the ones during that first year afterwards. Was he in the ER due to the depression?

Greyfort is right...during the first year after a death in the family, EVERYTHING is a "first": the first Easter, the first Fourth of July, the first birthday (of your Mom, or anyone in the family)...EVERYTHING. Most every month will have a "first" of some kind or another.

The second year, and beyond, is IMMENSELY better...which doesn't offer much comfort when you still have most of that first year to get through.

Know that we care, SII.

Yes due to depression and grief.

Sorry to hear that your father had to go to the ER/hospital. My father took his own life just after Thanksgiving so my family somewhat understands what you are going through. Each of those first holidays and special days after a loved ones passing are the most difficult. I'm sure you and your sister being there means a lot to him...as well as having Poncho to cuddle with. I liked the idea from your other thread of doing a memorial garden for your mom. Is there any way that you and your sister could go buy some things for that tomorrow and start working on it as a surprise Easter gift for your dad? My thoughts are with you and your family.

Hope that you and your family can start to make new memories together after the loss of your dear mother. I agree with the others, that the first year is the hardest. I'm hoping your dad feels better and you as well. Remember to take good care of YOU.

I'm sorry your Dad and you are having a hard time. In a way, you are being a father to your father, when he needs your nurturing. Sometimes this isn't easy when you are sad also. You are a good son. Time does heal. Your mother can never be replaced, but good memories of her can bring you joy. And, you and your family have each other. Your poor dad. Was it a panic attack?

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> I'm sorry your Dad and you are having a hard time.
> In a way, you are being a father to your father,
> when he needs your nurturing. Sometimes this
> isn't easy when you are sad also. You are a good
> son. Time does heal. Your mother can never be
> replaced, but good memories of her can bring you
> joy. And, you and your family have each other.
> Your poor dad. Was it a panic attack?


You are a good son. +100

The pain can be very raw in the first year or so after a loved one's death. Stay close to one another and take care.